Dr. Eric Bender

And there are times when you're speculating on that saying, this did happen when you were a kid.

What I'll say to people is from my experience, I have seen people who had that experience look at the world this way.

And I wonder if that resonates with you at all.

But that could also not be true at all.

So that's the way I handle it.

It could be that, it could be something else.

And people will tell me often, like, that would make sense.

I don't feel that way.

Or no, that's not what happened.

The reason this happened is this.

And then they'll actually tell me, like, this is what happened.

So I think there's different ways you can balance the, maybe this happened, maybe it didn't.

And a lot of the therapy I do is exploratory therapy.

It's exploring what people have experienced in their lives.

And-

how does it affect them?

And are they aware of certain things?

And I'll see people sometimes for a while, and then they'll say to me, you know, I haven't told you this, but this is something I've really thought about.

This happened in my life.

And I feel really honored that they feel so comfortable to talk to me.