Dr. Eric Bender

Yes, to each other.

So if you're horrific to each other, that is going to impact your children much worse than if you can be civil and if you can be amicable.

And that takes some restraint.

So if that means you limit the amount of time you have with your partner, fine.

But I think that was what we were taught impacts the kids.

Because otherwise it's incredibly stressful for the kids.

And I've had some people say, I'm thinking about divorce.

I'm really concerned about my kid.

And what I'll say is, I'm not pushing you into this marriage.

I'm not pushing you out of this marriage.

We should talk about it.

I will tell you that with kids, if it's a very toxic environment when you're with your partner and you get divorced, the time with your child may be even more meaningful to all of you.

That's powerful.

It might not be.

It might not be.

It really depends on many factors.

And I'm not advocating for divorce.

I'm not saying it's not good.

I want to be clear.

But I think that it's important that people realize