Dr. Erica Komisar

Anything that's entrepreneurial, anything that is a service field.

Anything that's entrepreneurial, anything that is a service field.

No, I'm going to disagree with you. I'm going to say you can, but you have to be willing to set limits with yourself. So you have to be willing to say no. Do you know Monet, the painter?

No, I'm going to disagree with you. I'm going to say you can, but you have to be willing to set limits with yourself. So you have to be willing to say no. Do you know Monet, the painter?

He was famous in his own life. Now, most painters have to be dead to be famous. And he painted on a very modest schedule. He'd get up in the morning to catch the light, and then he'd be done by like 3 or 4 o'clock in the afternoon. He'd have dinner with his family, you know. We are the architects of our own lives.

He was famous in his own life. Now, most painters have to be dead to be famous. And he painted on a very modest schedule. He'd get up in the morning to catch the light, and then he'd be done by like 3 or 4 o'clock in the afternoon. He'd have dinner with his family, you know. We are the architects of our own lives.

No, not kind of.

No, not kind of.

Okay, so who are the people who can't architect their own lives? Who do you think? I would say hedge fund managers.

Okay, so who are the people who can't architect their own lives? Who do you think? I would say hedge fund managers.

No. Okay.

No. Okay.

Okay. So first of all, it's a good reason to use birth control and not have a baby at 18. But okay, let's put that aside for a second. Let's put that aside for a second. Let's say that what we should be promoting in this world – I'm going to say this, it's controversial – is that whoever is the primary attachment figure – has a career that they have control over and flexibility.

Okay. So first of all, it's a good reason to use birth control and not have a baby at 18. But okay, let's put that aside for a second. Let's put that aside for a second. Let's say that what we should be promoting in this world – I'm going to say this, it's controversial – is that whoever is the primary attachment figure – has a career that they have control over and flexibility.

Maybe the other person doesn't. Maybe the other person works for someone or whatever. But in my book, I interview a lot of different women from a lot of different socioeconomic backgrounds. And one of the women that I interviewed was a nanny. And she...

Maybe the other person doesn't. Maybe the other person works for someone or whatever. But in my book, I interview a lot of different women from a lot of different socioeconomic backgrounds. And one of the women that I interviewed was a nanny. And she...

She had three children, and she said that the way that I raised my children, because I was a single mother raising three children, I had to work to pay the rent. She said, but I made sure that I didn't work past 5 o'clock. I never worked past 5 o'clock. I'd come home at 5 o'clock. I didn't go out at night. People would say, let's go. I said, no, my children, this is my time with my children.

She had three children, and she said that the way that I raised my children, because I was a single mother raising three children, I had to work to pay the rent. She said, but I made sure that I didn't work past 5 o'clock. I never worked past 5 o'clock. I'd come home at 5 o'clock. I didn't go out at night. People would say, let's go. I said, no, my children, this is my time with my children.

So I don't go out at night. I don't go out on weekends. When I'm not working, I am with my children. And my children knew that I had to work. But the way I used my free time was very carefully. She also said to me, and again, there are a number of interviews in there, She also said that the people who she left her children with, she never used daycare. She had extended family watch her child.

So I don't go out at night. I don't go out on weekends. When I'm not working, I am with my children. And my children knew that I had to work. But the way I used my free time was very carefully. She also said to me, and again, there are a number of interviews in there, She also said that the people who she left her children with, she never used daycare. She had extended family watch her child.