Dr. Erica Komisar

A child who's left for too many hours by their parent or whose parent is physically present but emotionally checked out. That baby has to cope, has to have a strategy. Turning away from the mother is a strategy. And the internal narrative is my mommy isn't. present for me, isn't here for me, won't be there for me. I can't trust my environment.

A child who's left for too many hours by their parent or whose parent is physically present but emotionally checked out. That baby has to cope, has to have a strategy. Turning away from the mother is a strategy. And the internal narrative is my mommy isn't. present for me, isn't here for me, won't be there for me. I can't trust my environment.

And that baby says, and I'm going to have to cope on my own, what we call learned helplessness. So the ambivalent attachment disorder, you know, that baby is the strategy is, you know, I'm going to hold on because if I don't hold on, she's going to leave again. Disorganized attachment disorder is the hardest to treat because the baby has no strategy. So the baby cycles through many strategies.

And that baby says, and I'm going to have to cope on my own, what we call learned helplessness. So the ambivalent attachment disorder, you know, that baby is the strategy is, you know, I'm going to hold on because if I don't hold on, she's going to leave again. Disorganized attachment disorder is the hardest to treat because the baby has no strategy. So the baby cycles through many strategies.

The baby will go from clinging to avoiding to being enraged and even slapping or hitting the mother and then cycling through again. And that baby that develops a disorganized attachment disorder, those babies, it's correlated later with borderline personality disorder. And we're seeing a huge rise in borderline personality disorders.

The baby will go from clinging to avoiding to being enraged and even slapping or hitting the mother and then cycling through again. And that baby that develops a disorganized attachment disorder, those babies, it's correlated later with borderline personality disorder. And we're seeing a huge rise in borderline personality disorders.

And those are the kids who are cutting themselves, who are trying to commit suicide. We have a mental illness crisis, the likes of which we've never seen in history. And it has everything to do with how we're raising our children.

And those are the kids who are cutting themselves, who are trying to commit suicide. We have a mental illness crisis, the likes of which we've never seen in history. And it has everything to do with how we're raising our children.

Pissed off? Yes, I suppose I am. I'm not pissed off at the people. I'm pissed off at a society that is lying. We're not really educating or telling parents the truth.

Pissed off? Yes, I suppose I am. I'm not pissed off at the people. I'm pissed off at a society that is lying. We're not really educating or telling parents the truth.

Well, one, secure isn't a disorder. So there's secure and then there's three attachment disorders.

Well, one, secure isn't a disorder. So there's secure and then there's three attachment disorders.

Yes.

Yes.

So an avoidant attachment disorder would be someone who can't form meaningful and deep connections, can't commit, has difficulty committing, has difficulty trusting in the intimacy and the depth of intimacy in a relationship. An ambivalent attachment disorder would be someone who's highly, highly anxious, someone who clings to you, calls you.

So an avoidant attachment disorder would be someone who can't form meaningful and deep connections, can't commit, has difficulty committing, has difficulty trusting in the intimacy and the depth of intimacy in a relationship. An ambivalent attachment disorder would be someone who's highly, highly anxious, someone who clings to you, calls you.

Maybe a woman you dated in the past who called you five times a day to check on you and was worried that you'd be the little fish that swam away. and suffocate. They suffocate the people they love because they're afraid to let go. Disorganized attachment, borderline personality disorders, they tend to be very emotionally volatile.

Maybe a woman you dated in the past who called you five times a day to check on you and was worried that you'd be the little fish that swam away. and suffocate. They suffocate the people they love because they're afraid to let go. Disorganized attachment, borderline personality disorders, they tend to be very emotionally volatile.

There's a lot of anger there, and there's a lot of self-harm, self-harming behavior there.

There's a lot of anger there, and there's a lot of self-harm, self-harming behavior there.