Dr. Ethan Kross

We can also jump into our mental time travel machines to think about how we're going to feel about something down the road. We've experienced all sorts of really tough things in our lives, most of which are have come but eventually gone, and we lose sight of that in the heat of the moment.

So thinking about how you're going to feel about what you're currently grappling with down the road can also be useful.

So thinking about how you're going to feel about what you're currently grappling with down the road can also be useful.

So thinking about how you're going to feel about what you're currently grappling with down the road can also be useful.

Well, that's a great observation. So step one, you gotta learn about what these different tools are. And once you do, then what you can do is you can start using frameworks, simple frameworks for enhancing the likelihood that you will use these tools

Well, that's a great observation. So step one, you gotta learn about what these different tools are. And once you do, then what you can do is you can start using frameworks, simple frameworks for enhancing the likelihood that you will use these tools

Well, that's a great observation. So step one, you gotta learn about what these different tools are. And once you do, then what you can do is you can start using frameworks, simple frameworks for enhancing the likelihood that you will use these tools

when you most need to use them and that you'll activate them automatically without thinking um you know the the the situation that you just described is not a trivial one we often get dealt curveballs uh that we're not prepared for and in the moment it can be really hard to figure out what to do because our emotions are are striking and are triggered so intensely it's precisely in those situations that we want to have plans

when you most need to use them and that you'll activate them automatically without thinking um you know the the the situation that you just described is not a trivial one we often get dealt curveballs uh that we're not prepared for and in the moment it can be really hard to figure out what to do because our emotions are are striking and are triggered so intensely it's precisely in those situations that we want to have plans

when you most need to use them and that you'll activate them automatically without thinking um you know the the the situation that you just described is not a trivial one we often get dealt curveballs uh that we're not prepared for and in the moment it can be really hard to figure out what to do because our emotions are are striking and are triggered so intensely it's precisely in those situations that we want to have plans

that prepare us for what to do.

that prepare us for what to do.

that prepare us for what to do.

One of the most impactful findings I've come across in psychology is the idea that bad is stronger than good. Losses loom larger than gains. The bad stuff in life just kind of sticks out a whole lot more strongly than the good stuff. It draws our attention, and I think it's why we often think about it more when it comes to managing our emotions.

One of the most impactful findings I've come across in psychology is the idea that bad is stronger than good. Losses loom larger than gains. The bad stuff in life just kind of sticks out a whole lot more strongly than the good stuff. It draws our attention, and I think it's why we often think about it more when it comes to managing our emotions.

One of the most impactful findings I've come across in psychology is the idea that bad is stronger than good. Losses loom larger than gains. The bad stuff in life just kind of sticks out a whole lot more strongly than the good stuff. It draws our attention, and I think it's why we often think about it more when it comes to managing our emotions.

Because the bad stuff, part of the reason it's so useful for us is it doesn't feel good. We want to minimize it as much as possible. But that doesn't mean we should ignore the positive side of our lives or that we need to be passive in terms of our positive experiences. You can absolutely cultivate positive experiences. So I gave you a couple of examples before.

Because the bad stuff, part of the reason it's so useful for us is it doesn't feel good. We want to minimize it as much as possible. But that doesn't mean we should ignore the positive side of our lives or that we need to be passive in terms of our positive experiences. You can absolutely cultivate positive experiences. So I gave you a couple of examples before.

Because the bad stuff, part of the reason it's so useful for us is it doesn't feel good. We want to minimize it as much as possible. But that doesn't mean we should ignore the positive side of our lives or that we need to be passive in terms of our positive experiences. You can absolutely cultivate positive experiences. So I gave you a couple of examples before.

Well, actually, before I give you more examples, let me further say, You should try to cultivate positive experiences if that's something you want to do. Some people have the goal of being kind of even keeled and just Buddha-like, if you will, and homeostatic. They don't want to get too high or too low. And if that's your goal... Great. Follow through with that goal.