Dr. Gabor Maté

That's my sense, unless you're pretending, which I don't believe you are.

So, just keep asking yourself, where am I not saying no?

Today, if I didn't pay attention to my gut feelings, not judge yourself for it, I didn't, I screwed up again, but I noticed I didn't pay attention to my gut feeling today in that situation.

I wonder why not?

What did I believe at the time?

So just keep asking yourself Just keep showing up for yourself, which is what you're already doing So I'm telling you you're on the right track already Far more than I was at your age by the way Okay?

You're very welcome Thanks

Right.

Yeah, and I'm saying that whether for you or for me or anybody in this audience, whatever you think is wrong with you, at some point served a purpose.

So for Christina, at some point, disconnecting from her gut feelings served the purpose of being accepted by the people that she had to be accepted by.

It wasn't a mistake.

It wasn't a moral failure.

It was an adaptation.

The problem is that these early adaptations then become ingrained and that which was helpful in one situation becomes

a limitation in another situation, but asking yourself the right questions will get us back to source.

If I may mention, I'm wearing this bracelet here, and I was given this in Haida Gwaii,

people in British Columbia know that it's a beautiful set of islands in the north of our province where indigenous people have lived for something like 10 or 12 thousand years and then it was colonized and they were treated terribly and I gave a trauma workshop up there a year and a half ago

And an elderly woman came up to me, and I've told this story before, she was so ashamed of herself because she forgot her native tribal national language.

And I said, well, what happened to you?

And I was given this bracelet at that workshop.