Dr. Harry Barry

So identifying it firstly is key and then you move to the treatment.

But really, I suppose, if we're talking to parents here this morning, we're saying if you think you have a perfectionist in the house, this is what you need to do.

And what are the things that you can do?

Well, I think the first thing that when I get somebody with perfectionism, the first thing I'll try to get them to do is to see that is their irrational belief that they mustn't have any imperfections.

To do their failure is really at the heart of it and also challenge their behaviour.

So if we challenge both aspects, let's take one.

So I'm a great believer in, for example, trying to get across to the young person that imperfections are normal.

They're part of mother nature even.

So they're inevitable.

So what I try to do is I give them perfectionist exercises.

And I think these are a great crack on together.

You can have great fun with these.

And that is that for a whole month, you have to change something in your appearance.

something that makes you seem in your mind to be more obvious to other people.

Like for example, you might wear one earring rather than two.

You might wear your hair different to the way you normally do it.

You might put makeup on one side versus the other.

You might wear different socks.

You might wear different shoes.

You know, I have great crack with this, but every solitary day for up to four weeks, I get the person to keep changing