Dr. Hilary Goldsher

That's right.

That's right.

That's right.

get out of a toxic situation or out of a situation where they're being abused i have a lot of people writing me right now that are inside of abusive relationships and i see the spiral i don't have quick advice let me do a quick summary of why people are there and then we'll go into how do you begin to even think about extracting so we talked about that emotional psychological factor briefly and i could do hours about this because it's highly complex

get out of a toxic situation or out of a situation where they're being abused i have a lot of people writing me right now that are inside of abusive relationships and i see the spiral i don't have quick advice let me do a quick summary of why people are there and then we'll go into how do you begin to even think about extracting so we talked about that emotional psychological factor briefly and i could do hours about this because it's highly complex

get out of a toxic situation or out of a situation where they're being abused i have a lot of people writing me right now that are inside of abusive relationships and i see the spiral i don't have quick advice let me do a quick summary of why people are there and then we'll go into how do you begin to even think about extracting so we talked about that emotional psychological factor briefly and i could do hours about this because it's highly complex

Not everyone who's had abandonment in their childhood end up in abusive relationships. Of course, that's true. But people who end up in abusive relationships often have this as a background. Yes. And so that's one of the aspects that we more often than not see. The other we address briefly, which is guilt and shame.

Not everyone who's had abandonment in their childhood end up in abusive relationships. Of course, that's true. But people who end up in abusive relationships often have this as a background. Yes. And so that's one of the aspects that we more often than not see. The other we address briefly, which is guilt and shame.

Not everyone who's had abandonment in their childhood end up in abusive relationships. Of course, that's true. But people who end up in abusive relationships often have this as a background. Yes. And so that's one of the aspects that we more often than not see. The other we address briefly, which is guilt and shame.

The internalized guilt for being someone that would subject themselves to these dynamics and allow themselves to be a victim of are overwhelming, can cause emotional paralysis, what we call a severe collapse response, where you're literally internally and physically in a fetal position, unable to think, unable to act.

The internalized guilt for being someone that would subject themselves to these dynamics and allow themselves to be a victim of are overwhelming, can cause emotional paralysis, what we call a severe collapse response, where you're literally internally and physically in a fetal position, unable to think, unable to act.

The internalized guilt for being someone that would subject themselves to these dynamics and allow themselves to be a victim of are overwhelming, can cause emotional paralysis, what we call a severe collapse response, where you're literally internally and physically in a fetal position, unable to think, unable to act.

The entire nervous system shuts down, goes into a fight or flight solely because of the shame, let alone the emotional and physical abuse you may be enduring. So it's not just death. should I stay or should I go? The body goes into an absolute trauma mode in a fight or flight state. And we have cortisol, the stress hormone running through our body.

The entire nervous system shuts down, goes into a fight or flight solely because of the shame, let alone the emotional and physical abuse you may be enduring. So it's not just death. should I stay or should I go? The body goes into an absolute trauma mode in a fight or flight state. And we have cortisol, the stress hormone running through our body.

The entire nervous system shuts down, goes into a fight or flight solely because of the shame, let alone the emotional and physical abuse you may be enduring. So it's not just death. should I stay or should I go? The body goes into an absolute trauma mode in a fight or flight state. And we have cortisol, the stress hormone running through our body.

We have adrenaline running through our body, which is adrenaline. And what does that do? That amongst other things, disallows us to access resources our full frontal lobe and make good decisions and use our full judgment. So that is absolutely part of the reason that people are unable to curate resources to go. The other we talked about briefly at the top was logistical.

We have adrenaline running through our body, which is adrenaline. And what does that do? That amongst other things, disallows us to access resources our full frontal lobe and make good decisions and use our full judgment. So that is absolutely part of the reason that people are unable to curate resources to go. The other we talked about briefly at the top was logistical.

We have adrenaline running through our body, which is adrenaline. And what does that do? That amongst other things, disallows us to access resources our full frontal lobe and make good decisions and use our full judgment. So that is absolutely part of the reason that people are unable to curate resources to go. The other we talked about briefly at the top was logistical.

Some people literally have nowhere to go. Where am I going?

Some people literally have nowhere to go. Where am I going?