Dr. Hilary Goldsher

That's right. And so that pull to get reconnected and get back in the honeymoon period, which is almost always part of what happens after an enormous explosion, the abuser. feel some degree of shame and guilt and will shower the victim with all the things that make them feel loved, whether it's tangible goods or... Oh man, I came home to a brand new phone.

That's right. And so that pull to get reconnected and get back in the honeymoon period, which is almost always part of what happens after an enormous explosion, the abuser. feel some degree of shame and guilt and will shower the victim with all the things that make them feel loved, whether it's tangible goods or... Oh man, I came home to a brand new phone.

That's right. And so that pull to get reconnected and get back in the honeymoon period, which is almost always part of what happens after an enormous explosion, the abuser. feel some degree of shame and guilt and will shower the victim with all the things that make them feel loved, whether it's tangible goods or... Oh man, I came home to a brand new phone.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes, and so for someone going back to our original discussion around abandonment and early childhood trauma, getting that honeymoon and that sort of deluge of the showing of love and affection is so compelling and seductive. That's part, it's not the only reason, but that's part of why the cycle stays intact.

Yes, and so for someone going back to our original discussion around abandonment and early childhood trauma, getting that honeymoon and that sort of deluge of the showing of love and affection is so compelling and seductive. That's part, it's not the only reason, but that's part of why the cycle stays intact.

Yes, and so for someone going back to our original discussion around abandonment and early childhood trauma, getting that honeymoon and that sort of deluge of the showing of love and affection is so compelling and seductive. That's part, it's not the only reason, but that's part of why the cycle stays intact.

And that intermittent reinforcement of love and cruelty creates a powerful emotional dependency.

And that intermittent reinforcement of love and cruelty creates a powerful emotional dependency.

And that intermittent reinforcement of love and cruelty creates a powerful emotional dependency.

Yes. Well, you're highlighting a really significant aspect of this, which is the addictive nature. And I'm not using that term in quotes. I'm talking about science, chemistry, what happens in the brain.

Yes. Well, you're highlighting a really significant aspect of this, which is the addictive nature. And I'm not using that term in quotes. I'm talking about science, chemistry, what happens in the brain.

Yes. Well, you're highlighting a really significant aspect of this, which is the addictive nature. And I'm not using that term in quotes. I'm talking about science, chemistry, what happens in the brain.

And we alluded to this earlier, but just like when you use drugs or drink or gamble, et cetera, and there's, I'm sort of oversimplifying it, but there's a version of a dopamine and a serotonin hit that which is the feel-good chemical inside of us.

And we alluded to this earlier, but just like when you use drugs or drink or gamble, et cetera, and there's, I'm sort of oversimplifying it, but there's a version of a dopamine and a serotonin hit that which is the feel-good chemical inside of us.

And we alluded to this earlier, but just like when you use drugs or drink or gamble, et cetera, and there's, I'm sort of oversimplifying it, but there's a version of a dopamine and a serotonin hit that which is the feel-good chemical inside of us.

The exact same thing happens during the reunification process with an abuser for all of the reasons that I was just describing and more that we can go into if we find the time, but it is the same process. And so you're talking about literal detox. I don't mean detox in quotes.

The exact same thing happens during the reunification process with an abuser for all of the reasons that I was just describing and more that we can go into if we find the time, but it is the same process. And so you're talking about literal detox. I don't mean detox in quotes.