Dr. Hillary Goldsher

to help suppress.

And so there's so much pain and not just the obvious.

I'm sure many people who watch this or rewatched it had a similar reaction, but it's so much more insidious than that.

around weight it was like needs to be sat down and told you're beautiful the way you are you're fine yeah and then we cut to eric still slamming pizza in and never address how he feels ever which i thought was interesting yeah it really concretizes the endless message around men not being not supposed to have feelings right and um to suppress um using dysfunctional yeah

It means right and leaves you without resources.

And the men that I see in my practice on a regular basis still talk about feeling resourceless when it comes to their feelings and mental health issues.

And again, I use that word earlier of unceremoniously.

There is this way in which it was sort of a throwaway.

Yeah.

Well, that you were left unresolved.

Right.

Yes.

Well, when you think about it, the extremes are men who are supposedly have weight issues are made to be the object of humor and lose their place as the object of affection.

I have to add, the things that you're saying feel so shocking to me.

And again, they were sort of implemented, I guess, unceremoniously without any preface, just these comments and this value system.

And I guess I'd ask both of you, Danielle, for you, how did you...

manage the buildup of those microaggressions against you at such a young age?

Where did that sit with you and where do they live now?

I'd be curious for both of you.

what you're describing is really nothing short of like an annihilation of the self and one's identity.