Dr. Jamil Zaki

Applications are coming in now. We're evaluating them on a rolling basis. I've already graduated college. So we'll just sit there and eat ice cream slowly, not so that it melts, but we'll say, what are you enjoying about this? Is it the texture? Is it the flavor? What do you want to remember about this moment? And I noticed more recently while working on this book that all of this was sensory.

Applications are coming in now. We're evaluating them on a rolling basis. I've already graduated college. So we'll just sit there and eat ice cream slowly, not so that it melts, but we'll say, what are you enjoying about this? Is it the texture? Is it the flavor? What do you want to remember about this moment? And I noticed more recently while working on this book that all of this was sensory.

Applications are coming in now. We're evaluating them on a rolling basis. I've already graduated college. So we'll just sit there and eat ice cream slowly, not so that it melts, but we'll say, what are you enjoying about this? Is it the texture? Is it the flavor? What do you want to remember about this moment? And I noticed more recently while working on this book that all of this was sensory.

Sunsets, somersaults, ice cream, you name it. But it wasn't very social. And what they were hearing from me about other people was negatively skewed because gossip is negatively skewed, right? If somebody cut me off in traffic while I'm driving them to summer camp, they learn all about that person, right?

Sunsets, somersaults, ice cream, you name it. But it wasn't very social. And what they were hearing from me about other people was negatively skewed because gossip is negatively skewed, right? If somebody cut me off in traffic while I'm driving them to summer camp, they learn all about that person, right?

Sunsets, somersaults, ice cream, you name it. But it wasn't very social. And what they were hearing from me about other people was negatively skewed because gossip is negatively skewed, right? If somebody cut me off in traffic while I'm driving them to summer camp, they learn all about that person, right?

but they don't learn about the people who are politely following traffic laws all around us, right, which is 90 plus percent of drivers. And so I started a practice of social savoring where I try to share with my kids positive things that I notice about other people. You could call it positive gossip as well. And one thing that I noticed is that that habit of savoring for them

but they don't learn about the people who are politely following traffic laws all around us, right, which is 90 plus percent of drivers. And so I started a practice of social savoring where I try to share with my kids positive things that I notice about other people. You could call it positive gossip as well. And one thing that I noticed is that that habit of savoring for them

but they don't learn about the people who are politely following traffic laws all around us, right, which is 90 plus percent of drivers. And so I started a practice of social savoring where I try to share with my kids positive things that I notice about other people. You could call it positive gossip as well. And one thing that I noticed is that that habit of savoring for them

changed my mental processing, right? It actually changed what I noticed because of course, if you're trying to tell somebody about something, You look for examples that you can tell them about. So a habit of action, of speech in that case, became a habit of mine.

changed my mental processing, right? It actually changed what I noticed because of course, if you're trying to tell somebody about something, You look for examples that you can tell them about. So a habit of action, of speech in that case, became a habit of mine.

changed my mental processing, right? It actually changed what I noticed because of course, if you're trying to tell somebody about something, You look for examples that you can tell them about. So a habit of action, of speech in that case, became a habit of mine.

So those three things, being skeptical of my cynicism, adopting a reciprocity mindset, and social savoring, those are three of the psychological pieces. And I can get to some actions, but yeah, I wonder what you think of these.

So those three things, being skeptical of my cynicism, adopting a reciprocity mindset, and social savoring, those are three of the psychological pieces. And I can get to some actions, but yeah, I wonder what you think of these.

So those three things, being skeptical of my cynicism, adopting a reciprocity mindset, and social savoring, those are three of the psychological pieces. And I can get to some actions, but yeah, I wonder what you think of these.

If you imagine the mindset shifts that I've talked about as thinking more like a scientist about the social world, then the second step to me is to act more like a scientist in the social world. The monk and author Pema Chodron, this great, great writer, is written beautifully about treating your life like an experiment. You know, in this moment, you could interrupt the defaults.

If you imagine the mindset shifts that I've talked about as thinking more like a scientist about the social world, then the second step to me is to act more like a scientist in the social world. The monk and author Pema Chodron, this great, great writer, is written beautifully about treating your life like an experiment. You know, in this moment, you could interrupt the defaults.

If you imagine the mindset shifts that I've talked about as thinking more like a scientist about the social world, then the second step to me is to act more like a scientist in the social world. The monk and author Pema Chodron, this great, great writer, is written beautifully about treating your life like an experiment. You know, in this moment, you could interrupt the defaults.

You could interrupt the patterns and look around more carefully. And I try to do that. And I encourage other people to do that as well. You know, one form of this is what I call taking leaps of faith on other people, right? Collecting more social data requires risk. So I try to do that. I try to take more risks, become less risk averse in a social context.

You could interrupt the patterns and look around more carefully. And I try to do that. And I encourage other people to do that as well. You know, one form of this is what I call taking leaps of faith on other people, right? Collecting more social data requires risk. So I try to do that. I try to take more risks, become less risk averse in a social context.