Dr Jeni Haynes

I would say it finally started to percolate through the system in about, well, let's see, 1993.

We were studying psychology and child development.

Oh, dear Lord, child development.

I went through that.

in like a haze going, but that didn't happen for me.

That didn't happen for me.

What's going on?

There's something very wrong with me.

And yeah, and we went and found what was wrong with us.

So self-diagnosed as having multiple personality disorder by the time we were 25.

But the thing is that a lot of stuff happens in abusive households.

And one of the things that gets missed is the abuser sets the narrative.

If they're a parent, they're setting the narrative for the siblings.

Right.

And their partner.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And, well, in my case, both of my parents set the narrative and unfortunately it wasn't particularly groovy.

But my siblings treated me in accordance to the rules that were set down by mum and dad.

And they can't see me as I really am because they still have the lenses that were given to them