Dr Jeni Haynes

in that home and in that family.

And so that has led to, in many ways, the utter devastation of my life.

We really struggle with that because my parents got a divorce.

I was 14.

Everything should have been hunky-dory.

But nobody actually looked at how do we perceive the children that we are walking away with at the divorce.

And so at the divorce, it was like, well, we've split from him.

Right, done.

End of story.

But it's not because...

My siblings grew up in a world where this stuff happening to me was normal.

It was a punishment.

That's what it was called.

Originally games until Judas said his bit and then it turned to punishment overnight.

Eric would tell you that we had a great deal of difficulty in therapy about the issue I've just spoken on.

Yes.

It's taken us over 23 years in therapy to get to a point where we could say what we've just said.

And we wanted to put it in the book, but...

We didn't want to cause any difficulties for my siblings because I love them both.

I love them dearly.