Dr. Jenna Flowers
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first heard Dec 2016
last heard Dec 2016
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So use resources.
And then also when you put your child first and who they are, you know, having real authentic conversations about, well, this is how our child is wired or what they're we're prone to, what are the strengths that we have as parents in each other that we can maximize in raising this kiddo?
So for instance, if one parent is say really good at school projects, but the other one um has a a work schedule that is not helpful to doing the the weekly homework, perhaps then one person kind of takes more the lead on the group projects and the other person makes sure that the the homework during the week is getting done.
I also say to use email, a weekly email, or for parents that are getting along really well to be able to schedule a call.
And then and I I r talk about this in the book and I list out all the different areas that the parents should be talking about over the upcoming week for that child, just to make sure that everybody's on the same page.
And it is the primary parents that are going over that schedule, not step parents or boyfriends or girlfriends of of the parent, but it is the primary parent.
Yes.
And if you're actually working with a parent then that would completely deny so much evidence that says that like, no, you're ch there's a real valid diagnosis.
It's been validated now by um several different tests and uh a school psychologist, an outside psychologist, the teacher, you know, then you're probably looking at a parent that is in denial and that's more their own issue.
Because they're putting their own stuff ahead of
The real needs of that child.
But I uh you know how this originated, um, and maybe that will help to give a little more sense to this, is that what I've noticed in in my private practice is that I would see so many parents that were so child centered to begin with in their parenting that they were not caring for marriages.
the marriages were c you know, were kind of l it was last on the town pole compared to children.
And um we've got backwards.
And I think some of this is that um for you know, I I came from a divorced home when I was little and my parents really didn't speak at all about parenting us and they just kind of hoped for the best.
And luckily I was a pretty high functioning kid that I
I ended up, you know, you know, being a really good student, but I didn't receive any help from my parents and whatnot.
And so when I came into my own parenting and then seeing my clients in my practice, I realized like, you know, kids from the seventies and eighties, we really have uh now that we're parents, a very child centered approach.
And as a result, for a lot of these marriages, if you're not taking care of your marriage and you're child centered, and then you decide to divorce, you're still very committed to your parenting because that's what you had in common.
So there is a really high population now of
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