Dr. Jody Carrington

And so I said to mom, like, would you have told me?

Like, let's say like on your deathbed or let's say, you know, I mean, at the birth of my child, would you have?

No, never.

And I could just see her be 17 in that moment being like, no, that was the rule.

We did not.

We were not.

And I was like, wow.

Like, so all of their parents, both of my, you know, my dad's mom and dad and my mom's mom and dad both went to their grave not knowing.

And we had a lot of time, like my mom and her mom were very close.

And so she, um, they had a lot of time at the end of her life.

They, you know, she was in the hospital and we had lots of time to sort of walk her home.

And I just, I said to her, like, was there any moment where you just wanted to say to her, Hey mom, here's the thing, you know, that I want you to know about.

And you know, we don't, I don't know where she is cause she hadn't found us yet.

Um, but you know, here's the, and she's like, never, never, I would have never considered it.

And I'm like, okay, well that's, that's very clear.

Got it.

You know, it's just, it's so interesting to me about how, so sort of our, our, some of our beliefs live in the time in our bodies when it was embedded.

And I know that as a psychologist, you know, oftentimes the question is, does it come back to your childhood?

Does it always come back to your childhood?

And the answer is