Dr. John Deloney

family dysfunction where are we going for Easter you know you're agreeing because it all shows up right there in the every dollar app and we have to agree on it there's a cleanliness to that sure or understand that even she doesn't my wife doesn't know why I buy camouflage gear that it costs that much but the point is we sit down and talk about it and we don't hide from each other right and obviously camouflage is just me making something up but yeah this one yeah this one ends in a pretty tough situation yeah

family dysfunction where are we going for Easter you know you're agreeing because it all shows up right there in the every dollar app and we have to agree on it there's a cleanliness to that sure or understand that even she doesn't my wife doesn't know why I buy camouflage gear that it costs that much but the point is we sit down and talk about it and we don't hide from each other right and obviously camouflage is just me making something up but yeah this one yeah this one ends in a pretty tough situation yeah

And let's say we talk about, hey, you need to share a checking account. If one of you has to make a passcode on your phone that your husband or wife can't see, that's a problem. That's a problem. If you reach over to grab your spouse's phone and they freak out and grab it from you, that's a problem.

And let's say we talk about, hey, you need to share a checking account. If one of you has to make a passcode on your phone that your husband or wife can't see, that's a problem. That's a problem. If you reach over to grab your spouse's phone and they freak out and grab it from you, that's a problem.

And let's say we talk about, hey, you need to share a checking account. If one of you has to make a passcode on your phone that your husband or wife can't see, that's a problem. That's a problem. If you reach over to grab your spouse's phone and they freak out and grab it from you, that's a problem.

And it serves the same dysfunction as not sharing checking accounts, not being aligned on how you spend your money because it's this idea that I've got my own life and you can't see a photo, you can't see the message. And that means, hey, what is – it just shines a light on – who is this person that shares a bed with me? Like, why? Why can't I see your photos? Why can't I see this stuff?

And it serves the same dysfunction as not sharing checking accounts, not being aligned on how you spend your money because it's this idea that I've got my own life and you can't see a photo, you can't see the message. And that means, hey, what is – it just shines a light on – who is this person that shares a bed with me? Like, why? Why can't I see your photos? Why can't I see this stuff?

And it serves the same dysfunction as not sharing checking accounts, not being aligned on how you spend your money because it's this idea that I've got my own life and you can't see a photo, you can't see the message. And that means, hey, what is – it just shines a light on – who is this person that shares a bed with me? Like, why? Why can't I see your photos? Why can't I see this stuff?

If you have to hide from your partner, then your marriage relationship's in a big mess.

If you have to hide from your partner, then your marriage relationship's in a big mess.

If you have to hide from your partner, then your marriage relationship's in a big mess.

How much work needs to be done?

How much work needs to be done?

How much work needs to be done?

And can I tell you something just to put in your back pocket? Five years ago, I was the chief student affairs officer at a university. Five years before that, I was two cities away in another state. Why do I tell you that? Me being a YouTuber was not on my radar. And so I always hesitate when people say we want to do a thing, but we're going to sell in three years.

And can I tell you something just to put in your back pocket? Five years ago, I was the chief student affairs officer at a university. Five years before that, I was two cities away in another state. Why do I tell you that? Me being a YouTuber was not on my radar. And so I always hesitate when people say we want to do a thing, but we're going to sell in three years.

And can I tell you something just to put in your back pocket? Five years ago, I was the chief student affairs officer at a university. Five years before that, I was two cities away in another state. Why do I tell you that? Me being a YouTuber was not on my radar. And so I always hesitate when people say we want to do a thing, but we're going to sell in three years.

We're going to sell in five years because, dude, none of us know what's coming in three years or in five years. And so if you've if. Yeah. Dave, let me ask you this. If you have an outstanding mortgage and let's say, you know, Mason bought it in the right way financially and you've got cash. Does it matter? Do you have a ratio for that? Or do you want to pay down the house a certain amount?

We're going to sell in five years because, dude, none of us know what's coming in three years or in five years. And so if you've if. Yeah. Dave, let me ask you this. If you have an outstanding mortgage and let's say, you know, Mason bought it in the right way financially and you've got cash. Does it matter? Do you have a ratio for that? Or do you want to pay down the house a certain amount?

We're going to sell in five years because, dude, none of us know what's coming in three years or in five years. And so if you've if. Yeah. Dave, let me ask you this. If you have an outstanding mortgage and let's say, you know, Mason bought it in the right way financially and you've got cash. Does it matter? Do you have a ratio for that? Or do you want to pay down the house a certain amount?