Dr. John Deloney

You railed and you were mad and you were sad. I think it's just, I have this sense that we have a skewed perspective of the trajectory of people coming back from rock bottom or from pullbacks that they've had in life and errors and failures. Because most people see those stories portrayed through movies. And the Rocky montage is three and a half minutes. Right.

But in reality, it can be five or ten years.

But in reality, it can be five or ten years.

But in reality, it can be five or ten years.

And you're looking around going, what the fuck is going on? Exactly. This isn't the way it's supposed to be. I didn't sign up for this story. Correct. And the self-belief of the protagonist rarely wavers. Sure, they're going to meet...

And you're looking around going, what the fuck is going on? Exactly. This isn't the way it's supposed to be. I didn't sign up for this story. Correct. And the self-belief of the protagonist rarely wavers. Sure, they're going to meet...

And you're looking around going, what the fuck is going on? Exactly. This isn't the way it's supposed to be. I didn't sign up for this story. Correct. And the self-belief of the protagonist rarely wavers. Sure, they're going to meet...

some hero's journey challenges there's going to be a little the bad guy comes out before the fight's available ready to start and wrecks his ankle or whatever it is his coach gets put into a coma and he needs to be able to do the the competition without him or whatever it might be but the self-belief never wavers and i think in my experience uh that's not the way that personal growth and that life trajectory goes at all then no

some hero's journey challenges there's going to be a little the bad guy comes out before the fight's available ready to start and wrecks his ankle or whatever it is his coach gets put into a coma and he needs to be able to do the the competition without him or whatever it might be but the self-belief never wavers and i think in my experience uh that's not the way that personal growth and that life trajectory goes at all then no

some hero's journey challenges there's going to be a little the bad guy comes out before the fight's available ready to start and wrecks his ankle or whatever it is his coach gets put into a coma and he needs to be able to do the the competition without him or whatever it might be but the self-belief never wavers and i think in my experience uh that's not the way that personal growth and that life trajectory goes at all then no

you are going to swim in a lot of self-doubt and uncertainty and there's not even the promise of any glory at the end and that makes the whole thing feel scary because you go maybe i'm just applying all of this effort and i'm going to end up at an even more broken place in the future and you know that that false narrative that uh that that you just bounce back

you are going to swim in a lot of self-doubt and uncertainty and there's not even the promise of any glory at the end and that makes the whole thing feel scary because you go maybe i'm just applying all of this effort and i'm going to end up at an even more broken place in the future and you know that that false narrative that uh that that you just bounce back

you are going to swim in a lot of self-doubt and uncertainty and there's not even the promise of any glory at the end and that makes the whole thing feel scary because you go maybe i'm just applying all of this effort and i'm going to end up at an even more broken place in the future and you know that that false narrative that uh that that you just bounce back

Yeah, I remember toward the end of my 20s and I was really trying to sort of work out some of the predictors for when I felt better and when I felt worse, when I was in the soup, as you would say. And I remember I wrote it, action is the antidote to anxiety, that you really don't fear the future when you're moving yourself toward it.

Yeah, I remember toward the end of my 20s and I was really trying to sort of work out some of the predictors for when I felt better and when I felt worse, when I was in the soup, as you would say. And I remember I wrote it, action is the antidote to anxiety, that you really don't fear the future when you're moving yourself toward it.

Yeah, I remember toward the end of my 20s and I was really trying to sort of work out some of the predictors for when I felt better and when I felt worse, when I was in the soup, as you would say. And I remember I wrote it, action is the antidote to anxiety, that you really don't fear the future when you're moving yourself toward it.

And it's a vicious spiral because the very thing that's hardest to do when you are struggling is precisely the thing that would make you feel better. right? Your motivation is at its lowest. You don't want to get out of bed. You don't want to go to work. You don't want to think of a new idea.

And it's a vicious spiral because the very thing that's hardest to do when you are struggling is precisely the thing that would make you feel better. right? Your motivation is at its lowest. You don't want to get out of bed. You don't want to go to work. You don't want to think of a new idea.

And it's a vicious spiral because the very thing that's hardest to do when you are struggling is precisely the thing that would make you feel better. right? Your motivation is at its lowest. You don't want to get out of bed. You don't want to go to work. You don't want to think of a new idea.

You don't want to apply effort to something or pick up the bar or not eat the comfort food or whatever it is, stick to your routine. But then when you start to roll that boulder a little bit, it accumulates an awful lot of momentum, which is exactly how you see people get unbelievable outcomes. Like it seems superhuman. How does this person get so much done in a day? How are they so successful?