Dr. John Deloney

It may be that you're going to stay at home for a few years and see these young girls until they get older, right? That's not the case. Your mom's making some choices on a daily basis as to where she's going to work and how much money she's going to make and what she's going to ask of her 19-year-old son. And so you're making decisions for an adult, and that's not your job.

Your job is, unfortunately, you've been cast in the role to make sure your 11-year-old little sisters have food and water, which is never your job, but here we are, right? And so, man, you're a man of noble character. But I want you to hear what Rachel's saying. Five years from now, what would be better?

Your job is, unfortunately, you've been cast in the role to make sure your 11-year-old little sisters have food and water, which is never your job, but here we are, right? And so, man, you're a man of noble character. But I want you to hear what Rachel's saying. Five years from now, what would be better?

Your job is, unfortunately, you've been cast in the role to make sure your 11-year-old little sisters have food and water, which is never your job, but here we are, right? And so, man, you're a man of noble character. But I want you to hear what Rachel's saying. Five years from now, what would be better?

For you to have started pool cleaning and also gone to get a couple of community college classes on the side, and five years from now you've got an associate's degree, and now you've got four employees of your own, and you're making $200,000?

For you to have started pool cleaning and also gone to get a couple of community college classes on the side, and five years from now you've got an associate's degree, and now you've got four employees of your own, and you're making $200,000?

For you to have started pool cleaning and also gone to get a couple of community college classes on the side, and five years from now you've got an associate's degree, and now you've got four employees of your own, and you're making $200,000?

Or you're still making $50,000, this guy had to lay you off because business got slow, and now you're making $35,000, and you're in the same bedroom in the same house, except you're 24 years old. Like, if you think on a longer time horizon, what's the best thing you can do for your family? It might be to go spread your wings and fly.

Or you're still making $50,000, this guy had to lay you off because business got slow, and now you're making $35,000, and you're in the same bedroom in the same house, except you're 24 years old. Like, if you think on a longer time horizon, what's the best thing you can do for your family? It might be to go spread your wings and fly.

Or you're still making $50,000, this guy had to lay you off because business got slow, and now you're making $35,000, and you're in the same bedroom in the same house, except you're 24 years old. Like, if you think on a longer time horizon, what's the best thing you can do for your family? It might be to go spread your wings and fly.

You're going to feel guilty.

You're going to feel guilty.

You're going to feel guilty.

Here's where I think you can get some peace in this transaction, okay? Number one, you're going to feel guilty. Just know that's coming. Okay. You may have heard me say this on the show. Choose guilt over resentment every time. If you just stay there and wither, you're going to resent your mom and that's not fair to her. So choose guilt. The second thing is come up with a number.

Here's where I think you can get some peace in this transaction, okay? Number one, you're going to feel guilty. Just know that's coming. Okay. You may have heard me say this on the show. Choose guilt over resentment every time. If you just stay there and wither, you're going to resent your mom and that's not fair to her. So choose guilt. The second thing is come up with a number.

Here's where I think you can get some peace in this transaction, okay? Number one, you're going to feel guilty. Just know that's coming. Okay. You may have heard me say this on the show. Choose guilt over resentment every time. If you just stay there and wither, you're going to resent your mom and that's not fair to her. So choose guilt. The second thing is come up with a number.

And sit down and tell your mom, for six months, I'm going to send $1,000 home. I'm going to send $750 home. And make sure that everybody's clear on when this money's coming and give her a ramp. You'll sleep a little better at night, I think, and it's going to be not just a cutoff, but it will be a peaceful departure. I'm sorry, my brother. Let us know if we can help.

And sit down and tell your mom, for six months, I'm going to send $1,000 home. I'm going to send $750 home. And make sure that everybody's clear on when this money's coming and give her a ramp. You'll sleep a little better at night, I think, and it's going to be not just a cutoff, but it will be a peaceful departure. I'm sorry, my brother. Let us know if we can help.

And sit down and tell your mom, for six months, I'm going to send $1,000 home. I'm going to send $750 home. And make sure that everybody's clear on when this money's coming and give her a ramp. You'll sleep a little better at night, I think, and it's going to be not just a cutoff, but it will be a peaceful departure. I'm sorry, my brother. Let us know if we can help.

All right, today's question comes from Justin in Virginia. Justin writes, how can I stop being jealous of how much my siblings and in-laws earn? My wife and I have no debt and a really good household income. We're happy in our careers. We're not missing out on anything due to how much we earn. I just can't figure out how to not be so triggered and frustrated by other people's income.