Dr. John Delony

And so if your ego is tied into everybody has to believe what I believe, then A, you're going to have a miserable, lonely, moronic life.

And B, you're putting a ton of pressure on somebody to be something they're not.

And that means your marriage over time will become performative.

Right.

And so all I have to say is, man, believe what you believe.

That's why we read books.

That's why we listen to shows.

That's why we like go to like lectures.

That's why we listen to podcasts so we can learn new things.

Like I know what I believe.

Show me something else.

And that's the fun adventure of life.

And Esther Perel said this, and I just love it.

but I think it's understated.

She says, most adults will have three or four or five, I don't remember the exact number, of great loves in their lifetime.

And if they work really hard, they can be with the same person.

I love that sentiment.

I just think it underestimates the amount of change people have.

I'm like on version 14 of myself.

My wife is on version, she hasn't changed much to me, but like six or seven of herself, which means for me, I get to always be discovering a new person as my wife is becoming whatever she's becoming.