Dr. John Gottman

And what am I supposed to do here? I thought we were going to do something together. It's Sunday. What I'm hearing you say is that I stayed very long. And I want to start to argue, no, it wasn't three hours. I never stayed three hours in my attic. It only was one hour. But instead, I have to say it felt to you or it was three hours.

And what am I supposed to do here? I thought we were going to do something together. It's Sunday. What I'm hearing you say is that I stayed very long. And I want to start to argue, no, it wasn't three hours. I never stayed three hours in my attic. It only was one hour. But instead, I have to say it felt to you or it was three hours.

You say it was three hours and that I completely let go of the plans that we were going to spend time together. And that ability to enter the view, the world, the inner world of the other. And still think, I'm only repeating. That doesn't mean I agree or I accept. That is not my experience of the same thing. But I can enter your world for a moment. That is the exercise.

You say it was three hours and that I completely let go of the plans that we were going to spend time together. And that ability to enter the view, the world, the inner world of the other. And still think, I'm only repeating. That doesn't mean I agree or I accept. That is not my experience of the same thing. But I can enter your world for a moment. That is the exercise.

You say it was three hours and that I completely let go of the plans that we were going to spend time together. And that ability to enter the view, the world, the inner world of the other. And still think, I'm only repeating. That doesn't mean I agree or I accept. That is not my experience of the same thing. But I can enter your world for a moment. That is the exercise.

Which one are you? Are you one of those?

Which one are you? Are you one of those?

Which one are you? Are you one of those?

Yeah. Are you one who says... Are you, actually, I could go with your question, but I have something I would love to describe.

Yeah. Are you one who says... Are you, actually, I could go with your question, but I have something I would love to describe.

Yeah. Are you one who says... Are you, actually, I could go with your question, but I have something I would love to describe.

No, because when I asked you, are you a person who stands your ground? Or are you a person who likes to be right or who needs to be right or who needs to be affirmed when you believe you are right? There are different variations here. Or are you a person who will you submit? You'll basically say, OK, you know, it doesn't really matter or whatever. you surrender, you let go, you release it.

No, because when I asked you, are you a person who stands your ground? Or are you a person who likes to be right or who needs to be right or who needs to be affirmed when you believe you are right? There are different variations here. Or are you a person who will you submit? You'll basically say, OK, you know, it doesn't really matter or whatever. you surrender, you let go, you release it.

No, because when I asked you, are you a person who stands your ground? Or are you a person who likes to be right or who needs to be right or who needs to be affirmed when you believe you are right? There are different variations here. Or are you a person who will you submit? You'll basically say, OK, you know, it doesn't really matter or whatever. you surrender, you let go, you release it.

It goes together with the fact that I think in many relationships, and this is really to your question about who's right and how we deal, you will often find that there is one person who is more afraid of losing the other and is more in touch with the fear of abandonment. And one person who is more afraid with the fear of losing themselves. and the fear of suffocation.

It goes together with the fact that I think in many relationships, and this is really to your question about who's right and how we deal, you will often find that there is one person who is more afraid of losing the other and is more in touch with the fear of abandonment. And one person who is more afraid with the fear of losing themselves. and the fear of suffocation.

It goes together with the fact that I think in many relationships, and this is really to your question about who's right and how we deal, you will often find that there is one person who is more afraid of losing the other and is more in touch with the fear of abandonment. And one person who is more afraid with the fear of losing themselves. and the fear of suffocation.

And the person who is more afraid of losing themselves is often the person who also will hold ground when they think they're right. The person who doesn't wanna lose the other is more likely to just say whatever, or okay, or doesn't tell you what they think, what they feel, what they need, because you're gonna decide anyway. And in order not to lose you, you should have what you want.

And the person who is more afraid of losing themselves is often the person who also will hold ground when they think they're right. The person who doesn't wanna lose the other is more likely to just say whatever, or okay, or doesn't tell you what they think, what they feel, what they need, because you're gonna decide anyway. And in order not to lose you, you should have what you want.

And the person who is more afraid of losing themselves is often the person who also will hold ground when they think they're right. The person who doesn't wanna lose the other is more likely to just say whatever, or okay, or doesn't tell you what they think, what they feel, what they need, because you're gonna decide anyway. And in order not to lose you, you should have what you want.