Dr. Julie Gottman
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We're never going to talk about it.
So saying, let's come back in a half an hour when I'm calmer and let's try again makes a huge difference.
Flooding, you mean?
Oh.
Let's not talk about this anymore.
Let's not talk about this.
Oh, God, that's so terrible.
Well, the problem in the relationship, when you say, let's just not talk about this anymore-
It's another way of saying, whatever you're thinking isn't important, so let's just drop it.
You're not important.
What a message, right?
It's a terrible message.
Let's talk about turning toward each other.
Oh, so important.
So important.
They think it means, oh, you turn your body away.
No, it doesn't at all.
It means you completely ignore what they've said.
Oh.
You ignore it.