Dr. Julie Gottman
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So let's say I'm reading a book and John calls to me from the kitchen, Julie.
I ignore him.
I keep reading the book.
He says again, honey, do you know where the big fork is?
I ignore him.
As if he never said anything.
That's turning away.
Turning against would be, would you stop interrupting me?
I'm trying to read.
That's the hostility, you see, that comes in turning against.
You know what it reminds me of?
You know what a sea anemone looks like?
You know, it's this little circle of a being in the water, in the ocean, that has little tiny fingers.
And when it's relaxed, all those fingers are spread out towards the center of this little circle.
Yeah, like if you saw the movie Finding Nemo, all the baby animals are in one.
Yeah, exactly.
Okay, so...
If you poke that C anemone gently, all those fingers pull back.
And then very slowly, it'll start stretching, stretching, stretching, stretching again.
Let's say you poke again.