Dr. Julie Smith

At that point, when I felt that overwhelm, it was telling me I was scared about what was going to happen to my children and what was going to happen to me and what the future held and how sick I might become and all those kinds of things. And I didn't have the answers to those things in that moment. And so the fear was there and that was okay. And yeah,

And then we focused on, okay, what's the next step that I need to take in order to keep moving through it?

And then we focused on, okay, what's the next step that I need to take in order to keep moving through it?

And then we focused on, okay, what's the next step that I need to take in order to keep moving through it?

So for a lot of people, when they feel resentment, the tendency is to look at the person who you feel is making you feel that way, right? That they're doing something wrong or they're overstepping the mark or they're breaching your boundaries. And... And again, for me, that's very prey rather than predator, right?

So for a lot of people, when they feel resentment, the tendency is to look at the person who you feel is making you feel that way, right? That they're doing something wrong or they're overstepping the mark or they're breaching your boundaries. And... And again, for me, that's very prey rather than predator, right?

So for a lot of people, when they feel resentment, the tendency is to look at the person who you feel is making you feel that way, right? That they're doing something wrong or they're overstepping the mark or they're breaching your boundaries. And... And again, for me, that's very prey rather than predator, right?

That's the sense of, you know, it's being done to me and therefore I don't have control of that feeling. And resentment will just destroy a relationship if you allow it to continue. And the only real way to kind of respond to resentment is looking at what it's telling you. And it's often that you've not been putting healthy boundaries in place, right? to prevent that.

That's the sense of, you know, it's being done to me and therefore I don't have control of that feeling. And resentment will just destroy a relationship if you allow it to continue. And the only real way to kind of respond to resentment is looking at what it's telling you. And it's often that you've not been putting healthy boundaries in place, right? to prevent that.

That's the sense of, you know, it's being done to me and therefore I don't have control of that feeling. And resentment will just destroy a relationship if you allow it to continue. And the only real way to kind of respond to resentment is looking at what it's telling you. And it's often that you've not been putting healthy boundaries in place, right? to prevent that.

Or maybe it's a gratitude problem. So another sort of real great remedy for resentment is gratitude and looking at maybe you're being hard on the other person and maybe you're taking them for granted and maybe there's other things to feel grateful for in that relationship.

Or maybe it's a gratitude problem. So another sort of real great remedy for resentment is gratitude and looking at maybe you're being hard on the other person and maybe you're taking them for granted and maybe there's other things to feel grateful for in that relationship.

Or maybe it's a gratitude problem. So another sort of real great remedy for resentment is gratitude and looking at maybe you're being hard on the other person and maybe you're taking them for granted and maybe there's other things to feel grateful for in that relationship.

But often it's that sense of you've allowed certain barriers to be breached or certain healthy boundaries to be breached and walked over and then you're going to be bitter about it. as opposed to taking responsibility for holding them up and doing the really difficult thing, but the thing that's going to create that kind of healthy experience in your relationship again.

But often it's that sense of you've allowed certain barriers to be breached or certain healthy boundaries to be breached and walked over and then you're going to be bitter about it. as opposed to taking responsibility for holding them up and doing the really difficult thing, but the thing that's going to create that kind of healthy experience in your relationship again.

But often it's that sense of you've allowed certain barriers to be breached or certain healthy boundaries to be breached and walked over and then you're going to be bitter about it. as opposed to taking responsibility for holding them up and doing the really difficult thing, but the thing that's going to create that kind of healthy experience in your relationship again.

Do you know what? Something I see a lot of, not necessarily in therapy anymore, but just in real life, is when people start to compare themselves to the wrong people. So when you start to compare yourself to your friends, and it just destroys the friendship because you set yourself up where you could have been a team and two people that walk through life together and support each other.

Do you know what? Something I see a lot of, not necessarily in therapy anymore, but just in real life, is when people start to compare themselves to the wrong people. So when you start to compare yourself to your friends, and it just destroys the friendship because you set yourself up where you could have been a team and two people that walk through life together and support each other.

Do you know what? Something I see a lot of, not necessarily in therapy anymore, but just in real life, is when people start to compare themselves to the wrong people. So when you start to compare yourself to your friends, and it just destroys the friendship because you set yourself up where you could have been a team and two people that walk through life together and support each other.

suddenly you put a scoreboard between you, which means that their victories mean some sort of loss for you and vice versa. Then you can't share your personal victories because they see it as a threat. And so then your conversations are censored between you. There's things you can't say. Or even when you're