Dr. Julie Smith

Yeah. I think looking at your relationship with failure is huge and a real game changer, actually.

Yeah. I think looking at your relationship with failure is huge and a real game changer, actually.

Yeah. I think looking at your relationship with failure is huge and a real game changer, actually.

When I talked about this idea of going on live TV and it being terrifying and that I needed to commit to looking after myself, it was really, that was a shift in my relationship with failure that I committed to looking after myself in the face of setbacks and humiliation and failure that might happen. That if the inside of your head is not a safe place to be, How are you ever going to take risks?

When I talked about this idea of going on live TV and it being terrifying and that I needed to commit to looking after myself, it was really, that was a shift in my relationship with failure that I committed to looking after myself in the face of setbacks and humiliation and failure that might happen. That if the inside of your head is not a safe place to be, How are you ever going to take risks?

When I talked about this idea of going on live TV and it being terrifying and that I needed to commit to looking after myself, it was really, that was a shift in my relationship with failure that I committed to looking after myself in the face of setbacks and humiliation and failure that might happen. That if the inside of your head is not a safe place to be, How are you ever going to take risks?

How are you ever going to move forward? One of the things I used to talk about in therapy when people were highly self-critical is this idea that imagine if I was going to lock you in a room for a whole year, so 24-7 for a whole year, you couldn't come out. And in there, I was going to put your high school bully, the worst person you can think of from your early days.

How are you ever going to move forward? One of the things I used to talk about in therapy when people were highly self-critical is this idea that imagine if I was going to lock you in a room for a whole year, so 24-7 for a whole year, you couldn't come out. And in there, I was going to put your high school bully, the worst person you can think of from your early days.

How are you ever going to move forward? One of the things I used to talk about in therapy when people were highly self-critical is this idea that imagine if I was going to lock you in a room for a whole year, so 24-7 for a whole year, you couldn't come out. And in there, I was going to put your high school bully, the worst person you can think of from your early days.

And you're going to live with them 24-7 for a year. How might you feel when you came out? Horrid.

And you're going to live with them 24-7 for a year. How might you feel when you came out? Horrid.

And you're going to live with them 24-7 for a year. How might you feel when you came out? Horrid.

Yeah. Yeah. So someone who just hammers you all the time. Oh my God. Yes. You're never going to come out of that feeling at your best.

Yeah. Yeah. So someone who just hammers you all the time. Oh my God. Yes. You're never going to come out of that feeling at your best.

Yeah. Yeah. So someone who just hammers you all the time. Oh my God. Yes. You're never going to come out of that feeling at your best.

But imagine now if I said, okay, I'm going to lock you in that room for the year, but you get to take your best friend. How would you feel different when you came out? I'd feel fantastic.

But imagine now if I said, okay, I'm going to lock you in that room for the year, but you get to take your best friend. How would you feel different when you came out? I'd feel fantastic.

But imagine now if I said, okay, I'm going to lock you in that room for the year, but you get to take your best friend. How would you feel different when you came out? I'd feel fantastic.

Like a holiday, right? You would have a great time and you would feel encouraged about whatever you're going to do next and happy. And really that idea of being in that room with a person is you inside your own head. The way that you speak to yourself can either be... a really good friend, or a bully.

Like a holiday, right? You would have a great time and you would feel encouraged about whatever you're going to do next and happy. And really that idea of being in that room with a person is you inside your own head. The way that you speak to yourself can either be... a really good friend, or a bully.