Dr. Julie Smith

How would a coach help me to get back up when I've fallen down or I've really messed up? What would they be saying? They wouldn't be calling me names because that wouldn't help. And so it's just giving yourself this idea of this concept of what is the voice that I need to hear right now that's going to help me through. And

How would a coach help me to get back up when I've fallen down or I've really messed up? What would they be saying? They wouldn't be calling me names because that wouldn't help. And so it's just giving yourself this idea of this concept of what is the voice that I need to hear right now that's going to help me through. And

And that's where the idea with the book came, where each chapter begins with a letter from me. It's this idea that often in those moments, you just need someone to bring the right words that helps to shift your attention in the right direction and give you that sort of drive in your belly that's just going to get you back up and pushing through this difficult moment.

And that's where the idea with the book came, where each chapter begins with a letter from me. It's this idea that often in those moments, you just need someone to bring the right words that helps to shift your attention in the right direction and give you that sort of drive in your belly that's just going to get you back up and pushing through this difficult moment.

And that's where the idea with the book came, where each chapter begins with a letter from me. It's this idea that often in those moments, you just need someone to bring the right words that helps to shift your attention in the right direction and give you that sort of drive in your belly that's just going to get you back up and pushing through this difficult moment.

So it's really hard to do that for ourselves in the moment. It takes time and training and practice. And I think often we learn that from hearing it. And so if we don't have anyone in our lives that seems to bring the right words that we need to hear, then we can get it from a book. Yes, you can.

So it's really hard to do that for ourselves in the moment. It takes time and training and practice. And I think often we learn that from hearing it. And so if we don't have anyone in our lives that seems to bring the right words that we need to hear, then we can get it from a book. Yes, you can.

So it's really hard to do that for ourselves in the moment. It takes time and training and practice. And I think often we learn that from hearing it. And so if we don't have anyone in our lives that seems to bring the right words that we need to hear, then we can get it from a book. Yes, you can.

A line that's often used in therapeutic work when we're helping someone build and train in kind of self-compassion is, I did the best that I knew how with what I had at the time. And I have new insight now and new skills now that I didn't have before. And we were talking earlier about the kind of idea of where you focus your attention and what causes anxiety.

A line that's often used in therapeutic work when we're helping someone build and train in kind of self-compassion is, I did the best that I knew how with what I had at the time. And I have new insight now and new skills now that I didn't have before. And we were talking earlier about the kind of idea of where you focus your attention and what causes anxiety.

A line that's often used in therapeutic work when we're helping someone build and train in kind of self-compassion is, I did the best that I knew how with what I had at the time. And I have new insight now and new skills now that I didn't have before. And we were talking earlier about the kind of idea of where you focus your attention and what causes anxiety.

If your attention is focused on the past, too much, you will get depressed and you will get miserable. If your attention is always focused on the future and things that might happen but haven't happened yet, you're going to get anxious. And if you're focused on the present moment, there's much less to be depressed or anxious about. It's just the present moment, just me and you and here.

If your attention is focused on the past, too much, you will get depressed and you will get miserable. If your attention is always focused on the future and things that might happen but haven't happened yet, you're going to get anxious. And if you're focused on the present moment, there's much less to be depressed or anxious about. It's just the present moment, just me and you and here.

If your attention is focused on the past, too much, you will get depressed and you will get miserable. If your attention is always focused on the future and things that might happen but haven't happened yet, you're going to get anxious. And if you're focused on the present moment, there's much less to be depressed or anxious about. It's just the present moment, just me and you and here.

And that's mindfulness, really. That's the idea of choosing where you focus your attention and so being able to like you say say something like I did the best I knew how with what I had at the time even if I had very little at the time in terms of skill and now I'm going to bring myself back to here.

And that's mindfulness, really. That's the idea of choosing where you focus your attention and so being able to like you say say something like I did the best I knew how with what I had at the time even if I had very little at the time in terms of skill and now I'm going to bring myself back to here.

And that's mindfulness, really. That's the idea of choosing where you focus your attention and so being able to like you say say something like I did the best I knew how with what I had at the time even if I had very little at the time in terms of skill and now I'm going to bring myself back to here.

I think when everything's uncertain, a lot of the distress that that causes is when we're trying to control it. It's a bit like your book, isn't it? With the let them, right? It's the allow life to be uncertain. Every move in life is uncertain. Nothing is given. Nothing is fully controllable.

I think when everything's uncertain, a lot of the distress that that causes is when we're trying to control it. It's a bit like your book, isn't it? With the let them, right? It's the allow life to be uncertain. Every move in life is uncertain. Nothing is given. Nothing is fully controllable.

I think when everything's uncertain, a lot of the distress that that causes is when we're trying to control it. It's a bit like your book, isn't it? With the let them, right? It's the allow life to be uncertain. Every move in life is uncertain. Nothing is given. Nothing is fully controllable.