Dr. Julie Smith

Because if you don't, you have nothing, right? You have to live as if you have a future because otherwise you start dropping into this sense of doom that everything is pointless if you feel that you don't have a future. And so you have to live with that meaning and purpose because if you don't act as if you have a future and then you do... you mess up your future.

So a lot of it is about sort of bearing that kind of suffering side of it and moving forward anyway. And then you get these little pockets of time where things feel a bit better or you open up the possibility of experiencing kind of pleasure or meaning or purpose despite the fact that the world is often scary and uncertain. And in some ways, it's always been that way.

So a lot of it is about sort of bearing that kind of suffering side of it and moving forward anyway. And then you get these little pockets of time where things feel a bit better or you open up the possibility of experiencing kind of pleasure or meaning or purpose despite the fact that the world is often scary and uncertain. And in some ways, it's always been that way.

So a lot of it is about sort of bearing that kind of suffering side of it and moving forward anyway. And then you get these little pockets of time where things feel a bit better or you open up the possibility of experiencing kind of pleasure or meaning or purpose despite the fact that the world is often scary and uncertain. And in some ways, it's always been that way.

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I think there's this kind of mix between the emotional stuff. So understanding that there is a way to deal with emotion and that when you experience a bunch of negative or painful emotions, that that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Linked with relationships.

I think there's this kind of mix between the emotional stuff. So understanding that there is a way to deal with emotion and that when you experience a bunch of negative or painful emotions, that that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Linked with relationships.

I think there's this kind of mix between the emotional stuff. So understanding that there is a way to deal with emotion and that when you experience a bunch of negative or painful emotions, that that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Linked with relationships.

I think it's a mix of dealing with my emotion in the relationship and dealing with someone else's emotion in the relationship. And I think we're lied to, especially on social media now, about this idea that, you know, you hear all this stuff about, you've got to be healed before you get into a relationship. Oh my God. Like, when are you healed?

I think it's a mix of dealing with my emotion in the relationship and dealing with someone else's emotion in the relationship. And I think we're lied to, especially on social media now, about this idea that, you know, you hear all this stuff about, you've got to be healed before you get into a relationship. Oh my God. Like, when are you healed?

I think it's a mix of dealing with my emotion in the relationship and dealing with someone else's emotion in the relationship. And I think we're lied to, especially on social media now, about this idea that, you know, you hear all this stuff about, you've got to be healed before you get into a relationship. Oh my God. Like, when are you healed?

I mean, if I had followed that rule, I would never have married Matt. We've been together for 20 years, you know? And, and It's this idea that you've got to become this sort of perfect idea of human being. And the other person's got to have done the same work so that when you get together, you have this perfect fairytale relationship and it's never hard. And it's just utter rubbish.

I mean, if I had followed that rule, I would never have married Matt. We've been together for 20 years, you know? And, and It's this idea that you've got to become this sort of perfect idea of human being. And the other person's got to have done the same work so that when you get together, you have this perfect fairytale relationship and it's never hard. And it's just utter rubbish.

I mean, if I had followed that rule, I would never have married Matt. We've been together for 20 years, you know? And, and It's this idea that you've got to become this sort of perfect idea of human being. And the other person's got to have done the same work so that when you get together, you have this perfect fairytale relationship and it's never hard. And it's just utter rubbish.

It's just not true whatsoever. And so when people then struggle in relationships because you're both dealing with emotion and stress and all the ups and downs of life, people then think that it's not the right relationship or you're getting it wrong.

It's just not true whatsoever. And so when people then struggle in relationships because you're both dealing with emotion and stress and all the ups and downs of life, people then think that it's not the right relationship or you're getting it wrong.

It's just not true whatsoever. And so when people then struggle in relationships because you're both dealing with emotion and stress and all the ups and downs of life, people then think that it's not the right relationship or you're getting it wrong.

And actually, that is the process of a relationship is building that together and going through those things and learning about each other in the process and forgiving each other for when you bring your worst to each other. And you just build so much strength through that. So I think there's this combination of what on earth is emotional about and how do I deal with it?