Dr. Julie Smith

And then in each box, I'll just ask myself, what matters most to me in this area of my life? So not what I want to happen to me, but how I want to show up in good times and bad. So what I want to kind of represent in that part of my life. So I might have a few words or a few sentences, and then I'll rate that just a crudely kind of out of 10.

And then in each box, I'll just ask myself, what matters most to me in this area of my life? So not what I want to happen to me, but how I want to show up in good times and bad. So what I want to kind of represent in that part of my life. So I might have a few words or a few sentences, and then I'll rate that just a crudely kind of out of 10.

How important are those values to me in this area of my life? So zero, not at all. 10 out of 10 is max. And then you rate it again. And this time, how much I feel I'm living in line with these values in the last couple of weeks. So then what you get is, you know, zero, not at all, 10 out of 10 is definitely. And then you get all of these kind of different boxes and these different scores.

How important are those values to me in this area of my life? So zero, not at all. 10 out of 10 is max. And then you rate it again. And this time, how much I feel I'm living in line with these values in the last couple of weeks. So then what you get is, you know, zero, not at all, 10 out of 10 is definitely. And then you get all of these kind of different boxes and these different scores.

How important are those values to me in this area of my life? So zero, not at all. 10 out of 10 is max. And then you rate it again. And this time, how much I feel I'm living in line with these values in the last couple of weeks. So then what you get is, you know, zero, not at all, 10 out of 10 is definitely. And then you get all of these kind of different boxes and these different scores.

And it's not a tool for self-criticism. It's a tool for... finding where you need to focus your attention next because you'll get this idea of okay well if something over here is 10 out of 10 important to me but i've just rated it as 2 out of 10 in terms of how i'm living in line with that at the moment then that deserves my attention and it's and it's not because you're failing.

And it's not a tool for self-criticism. It's a tool for... finding where you need to focus your attention next because you'll get this idea of okay well if something over here is 10 out of 10 important to me but i've just rated it as 2 out of 10 in terms of how i'm living in line with that at the moment then that deserves my attention and it's and it's not because you're failing.

And it's not a tool for self-criticism. It's a tool for... finding where you need to focus your attention next because you'll get this idea of okay well if something over here is 10 out of 10 important to me but i've just rated it as 2 out of 10 in terms of how i'm living in line with that at the moment then that deserves my attention and it's and it's not because you're failing.

It's because life pulls us in different directions, right? You can't fill all of those at the same time. So I might be busy with a project trying to finish a book or something. And so I haven't been taking the kids to their clubs recently. Someone else has done it for me. And I just noticed that pull that I'm not being the present parent I want to be.

It's because life pulls us in different directions, right? You can't fill all of those at the same time. So I might be busy with a project trying to finish a book or something. And so I haven't been taking the kids to their clubs recently. Someone else has done it for me. And I just noticed that pull that I'm not being the present parent I want to be.

It's because life pulls us in different directions, right? You can't fill all of those at the same time. So I might be busy with a project trying to finish a book or something. And so I haven't been taking the kids to their clubs recently. Someone else has done it for me. And I just noticed that pull that I'm not being the present parent I want to be.

And so then I'll say no to a few things at work so that I can do that. And so there's this constant kind of shifting and moving between things. But going back to your question, when you understand and you have that clarity in terms of what matters most to you at that point in your life, then it's much easier to make the decisions about what you should and shouldn't be doing.

And so then I'll say no to a few things at work so that I can do that. And so there's this constant kind of shifting and moving between things. But going back to your question, when you understand and you have that clarity in terms of what matters most to you at that point in your life, then it's much easier to make the decisions about what you should and shouldn't be doing.

And so then I'll say no to a few things at work so that I can do that. And so there's this constant kind of shifting and moving between things. But going back to your question, when you understand and you have that clarity in terms of what matters most to you at that point in your life, then it's much easier to make the decisions about what you should and shouldn't be doing.

Because our tendency is to go, okay, I'm only going to do the things that feel good and I'm not going to do the stuff that makes me feel bad or uncomfortable. Yeah. But if you make decisions based on comfort and discomfort, it's not going to lead you anywhere meaningful. Your life's just going to shrink.

Because our tendency is to go, okay, I'm only going to do the things that feel good and I'm not going to do the stuff that makes me feel bad or uncomfortable. Yeah. But if you make decisions based on comfort and discomfort, it's not going to lead you anywhere meaningful. Your life's just going to shrink.

Because our tendency is to go, okay, I'm only going to do the things that feel good and I'm not going to do the stuff that makes me feel bad or uncomfortable. Yeah. But if you make decisions based on comfort and discomfort, it's not going to lead you anywhere meaningful. Your life's just going to shrink.

Whereas if you make the choices based on your values and what matters to you, that will inevitably involve you doing things that make you feel terrible sometimes, right? So I know having children was really, really important to me.

Whereas if you make the choices based on your values and what matters to you, that will inevitably involve you doing things that make you feel terrible sometimes, right? So I know having children was really, really important to me.

Whereas if you make the choices based on your values and what matters to you, that will inevitably involve you doing things that make you feel terrible sometimes, right? So I know having children was really, really important to me.