Dr. Julie Smith

So to the edge towards somewhere in the middle, which involves compromise from both people. So it involves, you know, the person who's more avoidant building up their tolerance for intimacy and closeness and for the anxious person to build up their resilience for intimacy.

So to the edge towards somewhere in the middle, which involves compromise from both people. So it involves, you know, the person who's more avoidant building up their tolerance for intimacy and closeness and for the anxious person to build up their resilience for intimacy.

uncertainty and the tendency to kind of seek reassurance and calming that so it involves both people kind of working to fit together and it's absolutely possible you know there are lots of couples with those sorts of styles that work really well yeah

uncertainty and the tendency to kind of seek reassurance and calming that so it involves both people kind of working to fit together and it's absolutely possible you know there are lots of couples with those sorts of styles that work really well yeah

uncertainty and the tendency to kind of seek reassurance and calming that so it involves both people kind of working to fit together and it's absolutely possible you know there are lots of couples with those sorts of styles that work really well yeah

Yeah, I think, you know, there are just, I don't know, probably thousands and thousands of books written on that kind of scenario, that sort of unrequited love and things. And I think, you know, when we're talking about the people pleasing side, some people will have that tendency to

Yeah, I think, you know, there are just, I don't know, probably thousands and thousands of books written on that kind of scenario, that sort of unrequited love and things. And I think, you know, when we're talking about the people pleasing side, some people will have that tendency to

Yeah, I think, you know, there are just, I don't know, probably thousands and thousands of books written on that kind of scenario, that sort of unrequited love and things. And I think, you know, when we're talking about the people pleasing side, some people will have that tendency to

stay in relationships in which the other person has no affection for them because of the fear of being alone being rejected and I think you make better decisions about those kind of relationships

stay in relationships in which the other person has no affection for them because of the fear of being alone being rejected and I think you make better decisions about those kind of relationships

stay in relationships in which the other person has no affection for them because of the fear of being alone being rejected and I think you make better decisions about those kind of relationships

if you work on having your own back so it's much less scary the idea of leaving someone or being rejected by someone if if you know that you will look after yourself and do the best by yourself and you know you're much more resilient to any of that and you're much less likely to put up with

if you work on having your own back so it's much less scary the idea of leaving someone or being rejected by someone if if you know that you will look after yourself and do the best by yourself and you know you're much more resilient to any of that and you're much less likely to put up with

if you work on having your own back so it's much less scary the idea of leaving someone or being rejected by someone if if you know that you will look after yourself and do the best by yourself and you know you're much more resilient to any of that and you're much less likely to put up with

someone who doesn't love you back and treats you poorly if you have your own back and you're looking after yourself. So having that kind of good relationship with the self where you come first helps you to be able to do it.

someone who doesn't love you back and treats you poorly if you have your own back and you're looking after yourself. So having that kind of good relationship with the self where you come first helps you to be able to do it.

someone who doesn't love you back and treats you poorly if you have your own back and you're looking after yourself. So having that kind of good relationship with the self where you come first helps you to be able to do it.

Yeah, and it's a risk, but it's a risk that's worth it because we do a lot better in relationships than we do outside of them. And, you know, you... There is so much to gain from that risk that it makes it worth it. You do make yourself vulnerable going into a relationship, don't you?

Yeah, and it's a risk, but it's a risk that's worth it because we do a lot better in relationships than we do outside of them. And, you know, you... There is so much to gain from that risk that it makes it worth it. You do make yourself vulnerable going into a relationship, don't you?

Yeah, and it's a risk, but it's a risk that's worth it because we do a lot better in relationships than we do outside of them. And, you know, you... There is so much to gain from that risk that it makes it worth it. You do make yourself vulnerable going into a relationship, don't you?