Dr. Julie Smith

So when you're kind of at a stage where you're not sure whether the relationship is going to end, like you say, when people have been so into a relationship and sacrificed so much of themselves that it's become all about the other person, ending that relationship then can be this process of rebuilding.

So when you're kind of at a stage where you're not sure whether the relationship is going to end, like you say, when people have been so into a relationship and sacrificed so much of themselves that it's become all about the other person, ending that relationship then can be this process of rebuilding.

So when you're kind of at a stage where you're not sure whether the relationship is going to end, like you say, when people have been so into a relationship and sacrificed so much of themselves that it's become all about the other person, ending that relationship then can be this process of rebuilding.

You don't know what your preferences are because you've spent so many years prioritizing somebody else's. But it's absolutely possible to do that and to rediscover yourself and your own preferences and the things that you like to do or your own goals and your own values. But it takes a bit of work.

You don't know what your preferences are because you've spent so many years prioritizing somebody else's. But it's absolutely possible to do that and to rediscover yourself and your own preferences and the things that you like to do or your own goals and your own values. But it takes a bit of work.

You don't know what your preferences are because you've spent so many years prioritizing somebody else's. But it's absolutely possible to do that and to rediscover yourself and your own preferences and the things that you like to do or your own goals and your own values. But it takes a bit of work.

It's interesting, isn't it? Because when you're in the moment and you're angry with someone, it feels as if the best feeling is going to be when you prove that you're right and you come out on top and you're the only person that thinks you look good when you win.

It's interesting, isn't it? Because when you're in the moment and you're angry with someone, it feels as if the best feeling is going to be when you prove that you're right and you come out on top and you're the only person that thinks you look good when you win.

It's interesting, isn't it? Because when you're in the moment and you're angry with someone, it feels as if the best feeling is going to be when you prove that you're right and you come out on top and you're the only person that thinks you look good when you win.

And actually, if you're in a loving relationship with someone and you prove yourself right and you feel like you've won the argument, what the other person then feels is is probably a bit crushed and a bit disappointed in you for being so ruthless with them. And so it's so important.

And actually, if you're in a loving relationship with someone and you prove yourself right and you feel like you've won the argument, what the other person then feels is is probably a bit crushed and a bit disappointed in you for being so ruthless with them. And so it's so important.

And actually, if you're in a loving relationship with someone and you prove yourself right and you feel like you've won the argument, what the other person then feels is is probably a bit crushed and a bit disappointed in you for being so ruthless with them. And so it's so important.

And I think you learn this over time, the longer that you're in relationships, you learn how to argue in a way that leads to reconnection and The aim is no longer to work out who's winning and whether the relationship is going to continue. The aim is to resolve it in a way that doesn't hurt either of you too much.

And I think you learn this over time, the longer that you're in relationships, you learn how to argue in a way that leads to reconnection and The aim is no longer to work out who's winning and whether the relationship is going to continue. The aim is to resolve it in a way that doesn't hurt either of you too much.

And I think you learn this over time, the longer that you're in relationships, you learn how to argue in a way that leads to reconnection and The aim is no longer to work out who's winning and whether the relationship is going to continue. The aim is to resolve it in a way that doesn't hurt either of you too much.

And arguments that focus on reconnection and repair as opposed to winner and loser are lead to much, much stronger relationships in which you can argue and still trust each other.

And arguments that focus on reconnection and repair as opposed to winner and loser are lead to much, much stronger relationships in which you can argue and still trust each other.

And arguments that focus on reconnection and repair as opposed to winner and loser are lead to much, much stronger relationships in which you can argue and still trust each other.

For it not to be perfect at the beginning. So, you know, I've been with my husband for like 20 years and we don't argue in the same way that we did when we first got together.

For it not to be perfect at the beginning. So, you know, I've been with my husband for like 20 years and we don't argue in the same way that we did when we first got together.