Dr. K

Shoulds come from mental conditionings of society.

So when I, when my parents were like, you should become a doctor, there was no passion to become a doctor.

I ended up becoming a doctor for completely different reasons.

But I did it out of dharma.

And then it became easy.

Like from failing out to being at the top of my class became really easy if you're doing it in service to something.

One last point about dharma is that we know from addiction, psychiatry, and plenty of like neuroscience and stuff that in order to give up something good, you have to replace it with something.

So like addiction is about, conquering addiction is about wanting something more than what the addiction gives you.

Right.

So the addiction gives me like avoidance and all this kind of stuff.

But I want a life.

I want to be able to live.

I want to be able to hold my head up high.

I want these kinds of things.

And so dharma kind of moves in that direction where dharma can be the substitute for all of the other desires that you have to do your duty.

And I think your duty is determined a lot by being in harmony with your environment.

So my duty as a doctor is different from my duty as a husband.

So I'm not my wife's therapist, right?

If I try to be my wife's therapist, it's a mess.

I've tried, it doesn't work.