Dr. K

When you have an injury, the first thing that happens is it will form scar tissue.

So scar tissue is tough, it's fibrous, and it protects us.

So the negative identities that we form

Help us from facing other things.

So if I'm a loser, I never have to try anymore.

Right.

If I am lazy, it's not my fault because there's the people out there who are disciplined and the people out there who are lazy.

And I'm one of the lazy ones.

I'm unlucky.

Then the problem becomes that our identity literally shapes the way that we move through the world.

So if I think of myself as ugly and I go on a date, my expectations of the date, the way that I show up,

is going to heavily affect the date because human beings are empathic.

So if I walk into a room and I believe of myself, if I think of myself as a loser, other people will pick up on that empathic energy and they will think of me as a loser as well.

So if you go into a job interview and you don't think you belong – I see this all the time.

It's really interesting.

I see a ton of imposter syndrome.

When I was at Harvard, I would see a ton of imposter syndrome.

And you'd think that imposter syndrome is fixed by success.

But actually success – we'll get to this.

I'm getting a little bit all over the place.