Dr. K

So I think like the more people start living in service to their dharma, which then there's a whole question of how do you find your dharma?

the better off your life will be.

You may experience more pain, but like your life will feel good and it'll be easy to live.

So it's kind of like strong that way.

So the biggest catalyst is controlling your indriyas or your sensory organs.

So if we look at where do shoulds come from?

So let's be precise and scientific about this.

Where do shoulds come from?

Shoulds come from your perceptions.

So when I get told by my grandmother, oh, you'll be a wonderful doctor one day.

When my dad tells me when I'm nine years old, pulls me and my brother aside, says one of y'all is going to be a doctor, one of y'all is going to be a lawyer.

So if you look at most of what you want, and even when you say to yourself, I should do this, where is that idea coming from?

The should is a friction between the internal you and societal expectations.

That's literally what the word means.

So finding your dharma is first getting rid of all of your shoulds and seeing what is left.

Now, the problem is that

When we are faced with shoulds, that creates negativity within our brain.

It creates anxiety.

It creates fear.

It creates lack of desire, right?