Dr. K
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Then we have to use willpower.
So there's this fundamental tension.
And then what happens is since the should creates an anxiety, my brain needs some way to fix that.
That's why we turn to dopamine.
That's why we turn to pleasure.
That's why we give in to wants, right?
The way I combat the should is by going towards a want.
Because the should makes me feel bad.
I don't want to study.
a should study.
And so there's a fundamental polarization, right?
The moment I create a positron, I create an electron.
So there's your dharma.
And then when you get lost of that, you fill it up with shoulds.
And then you have these compensatory wants.
And then you have a struggle, which is the core struggle that most people have.
I should do this.
I want to do this.
Once you get rid of the shoulds and you also get rid of the wants.
So once you get rid of the shoulds, then the wants will go away too because they're created by the shoulds.