Dr. K

They're created as an alternative or an avoidance of a should, right?

So the reason I love playing video games is because I don't want to work.

So there's a certain amount of quietness and involution that is necessary for that.

So to get away from your shoulds,

And so the first thing that I would tell people is like, you know, if there's something in your mind that you should do, you'll notice that there's always a want.

So just step away from all that and just sit.

Dharma will come from within.

So when we get rid of your societal conditioning, you will discover that there are natural driving impulses.

And the more that you give into those natural driving impulses, it's not a want and it's not a should.

I would say the best language to use is feel like.

So I'll give you like a really simple example.

I feel hunger, but I don't need to satisfy it with a burger.

That's a want.

I don't have to, I should eat a salad.

I want a burger and hunger.

Does that kind of make sense?

That's how you triangulate to dharma.

So the hunger, and then what you do is you pay attention to what satisfies the feeling.

It's not a desire and it's not a should.

I will feel proud if I eat a salad.