Dr. Kurt Gray

Right.

So not everyone has compelling stories of harm, but we all are motivated to protect ourselves.

And so I think you need to let the human shine through the kind of political division.

In the book, I talk about three steps you can do that are all, I'm not going to say easy, but are at least straightforward for having more respectful conversations.

So the three steps are connect, invite, and validate.

Connect, see, invite, I, the, validate, spell civ, and it's the beginning of more civil conversations.

So that's how you can remember.

And so connecting is just talking to the person

As if they're a person.

You know, it shouldn't be hard, but sometimes it is.

And so the way you can kind of connect with someone as a person is to ask them questions.

So that's the first step.

Connect as human beings.

Get at someone's hopes and fears and worries.

Second, invite.

Everyone likes being invited to a party.

No one likes being demanded to attend a party.

It's the same with sharing political views.

If you want to know how someone's thinking, say, I know you voted differently than me in the last election, and I'm trying to understand why.

I'd really love to hear about it if you'd feel comfortable enough to share it.