Dr. Laurie Santos

But we tend not to be present. We tend not to mindfully notice. And that's true for the stuff you really crave, but you might not like after you like open the fridge four times and grab that thing to eat that you didn't really feel like. Take a moment to be like, am I satisfied now? Not really. Want to grab something else.

But we tend not to be present. We tend not to mindfully notice. And that's true for the stuff you really crave, but you might not like after you like open the fridge four times and grab that thing to eat that you didn't really feel like. Take a moment to be like, am I satisfied now? Not really. Want to grab something else.

But we tend not to be present. We tend not to mindfully notice. And that's true for the stuff you really crave, but you might not like after you like open the fridge four times and grab that thing to eat that you didn't really feel like. Take a moment to be like, am I satisfied now? Not really. Want to grab something else.

And once you notice that your wanting system can be like, OK, kind of duly noted. Got it.

And once you notice that your wanting system can be like, OK, kind of duly noted. Got it.

And once you notice that your wanting system can be like, OK, kind of duly noted. Got it.

got it let's take note of that for next time so kind of forcing yourself to ignore your wanting system and just act through this very rational path but then also mindfully noticing what you really like those things can start to update your craving system at least a little bit but the systems are always going to be disconnected unfortunately it's just our minds are not really designed that well for wanting all the things that we like

got it let's take note of that for next time so kind of forcing yourself to ignore your wanting system and just act through this very rational path but then also mindfully noticing what you really like those things can start to update your craving system at least a little bit but the systems are always going to be disconnected unfortunately it's just our minds are not really designed that well for wanting all the things that we like

got it let's take note of that for next time so kind of forcing yourself to ignore your wanting system and just act through this very rational path but then also mindfully noticing what you really like those things can start to update your craving system at least a little bit but the systems are always going to be disconnected unfortunately it's just our minds are not really designed that well for wanting all the things that we like

Yeah, well, one another dumb feature of the way our minds work when it comes to happiness is the fact that we don't necessarily think of the good things in our life in objective terms. We think of them in relative terms. And that means that seeing ourselves on social media, seeing what's going on with other people on social media. that can really affect our happiness in some dumb ways.

Yeah, well, one another dumb feature of the way our minds work when it comes to happiness is the fact that we don't necessarily think of the good things in our life in objective terms. We think of them in relative terms. And that means that seeing ourselves on social media, seeing what's going on with other people on social media. that can really affect our happiness in some dumb ways.

Yeah, well, one another dumb feature of the way our minds work when it comes to happiness is the fact that we don't necessarily think of the good things in our life in objective terms. We think of them in relative terms. And that means that seeing ourselves on social media, seeing what's going on with other people on social media. that can really affect our happiness in some dumb ways.

Take your body image, for example, right? You know, you might objectively think you have a certain body that's good or not so good or whatever, but we don't necessarily think in terms of our objective sense. We think relative.

Take your body image, for example, right? You know, you might objectively think you have a certain body that's good or not so good or whatever, but we don't necessarily think in terms of our objective sense. We think relative.

Take your body image, for example, right? You know, you might objectively think you have a certain body that's good or not so good or whatever, but we don't necessarily think in terms of our objective sense. We think relative.

And so as soon as you go on Instagram and you look at, you know, the bikini pictures of someone else or take your objective sense of how good your vacation was or how rich you were, how nice your house is, then, you know, you watch the celebrity, you know, TikTok feeds and you're like, oh, Like my house isn't that good or my vacation sucked and things like that.

And so as soon as you go on Instagram and you look at, you know, the bikini pictures of someone else or take your objective sense of how good your vacation was or how rich you were, how nice your house is, then, you know, you watch the celebrity, you know, TikTok feeds and you're like, oh, Like my house isn't that good or my vacation sucked and things like that.

And so as soon as you go on Instagram and you look at, you know, the bikini pictures of someone else or take your objective sense of how good your vacation was or how rich you were, how nice your house is, then, you know, you watch the celebrity, you know, TikTok feeds and you're like, oh, Like my house isn't that good or my vacation sucked and things like that.

We're really susceptible to social comparison when it comes to evaluating anything in our life, our abilities, our amount of money, our salary, our house, whatever. And that means that we can easily start feeling bad even when we're in objectively a good situation. My favorite extreme example of this was a study that looked at the emotions of different Olympic medalists.

We're really susceptible to social comparison when it comes to evaluating anything in our life, our abilities, our amount of money, our salary, our house, whatever. And that means that we can easily start feeling bad even when we're in objectively a good situation. My favorite extreme example of this was a study that looked at the emotions of different Olympic medalists.