Dr. Lee Long

I mean, I remember when, when, uh, my son was, was about three years old, we had a, uh, Costco size box of Cheerios and man, he was doing the lasso with it open, you know?

Oh, no.

Is that this one?

Rhodes.

I hope you're okay with this.

Oh, yeah.

But, you know, the whole thing was he was upset when he realized he was stomping around on it.

You know, the whole thing was he was upset when he realized we were upset.

And a lot of times what we do as parents, we go, oh, let's go put them in timeout.

Well, we did, but timeouts for emotional regulation.

So he went to timeout and then he came back and he realized, oh, no, this is still here to be cleaned up.

Right.

So it's like, you know, how many times do you go to timeout to regulate emotions?

A lot.

But the end result is you still got to clean up the mess you made.

And I think those are the two things to me is that it's an understanding of self and it's living life in an accountable way.

The world isn't going to take care of this for me.

I always say it's making me right for the world, not the world right for me.

And that's, I think, at the core of it.

And that's what you were doing with your son.