Dr. Lindsay Gibson

Well, it does for everybody, doesn't it?

Yeah.

If you want a good relationship with your child where they basically learn to trust you as a person in the relationship, then you can do things in an empathic and restrained way that works really well for keeping friendships because you don't make your friends feel anxious or bad about themselves or ashamed.

And you end up keeping that friend for a long time, right?

So we want to keep our children not as a friend.

I'm not saying your child is just like your friend.

I'm saying treat your child like a friend that you would like to keep.

And remember how you have the power to affect their feelings about themselves and their internal sense of goodness.

You have a huge impact on that.

Hi, David. I'm doing great.

Hi, David. I'm doing great.

That's what I'm here for.

That's what I'm here for.

Sure. The biggest one is the egocentrism. If you just imagine that a person starts and ends all their consideration with what's best for them or how they see things, that's egocentrism. And, you know, David, I just started watching The Sopranos for the first time. I'm like the only person in America that had not watched The Sopranos. You're in for a treat.

Sure. The biggest one is the egocentrism. If you just imagine that a person starts and ends all their consideration with what's best for them or how they see things, that's egocentrism. And, you know, David, I just started watching The Sopranos for the first time. I'm like the only person in America that had not watched The Sopranos. You're in for a treat.

Yeah, well, I'm on season five now, so I'm, yeah. But if you listen to the dialogue, they completely nailed it. Because everything always comes back the same. to the viewpoint of the person who is the emotionally immature character. It's always all about them. Another one is the lack of empathy. The parent just doesn't get it.

Yeah, well, I'm on season five now, so I'm, yeah. But if you listen to the dialogue, they completely nailed it. Because everything always comes back the same. to the viewpoint of the person who is the emotionally immature character. It's always all about them. Another one is the lack of empathy. The parent just doesn't get it.

They say, why are you so upset about this, or stop it, or this is not a big deal. They cannot enter into the reality of their child's emotional experience. It just doesn't make sense to them. Maybe it's the teenager who wants to talk to their parent about their girlfriend or boyfriend. And then the parent says, oh, tell me about it. That reminds me of your father.

They say, why are you so upset about this, or stop it, or this is not a big deal. They cannot enter into the reality of their child's emotional experience. It just doesn't make sense to them. Maybe it's the teenager who wants to talk to their parent about their girlfriend or boyfriend. And then the parent says, oh, tell me about it. That reminds me of your father.

Let me tell you what he did yesterday. And suddenly, you know, we're back talking about the emotionally immature person's issues with no sense of, you know, sticking to the subject of the other person.