Dr. Lindsay Gibson

Yeah, well, I don't think there's much possibility of change unless you have the self-reflection, okay? And you have the self-reflection because you have a sense of self. And you develop the sense of self because your emotional needs have been met And you have been responded to as a little human being early enough that that sense of self gets in there.

OK, you know, to go back to the Sopranos, that's what his therapist was over five years trying to enjoy how much you've gone back to the Sopranos.

OK, you know, to go back to the Sopranos, that's what his therapist was over five years trying to enjoy how much you've gone back to the Sopranos.

Yeah, well, she got him to start in a minuscule way, self-reflecting. So that makes change possible. I think there are earth-shattering moments that really shift your paradigm, and I think they really shift reality. like permanently shift your view of something or your way of thinking about yourself or other people. And I think that kind of change can happen in a flash.

Yeah, well, she got him to start in a minuscule way, self-reflecting. So that makes change possible. I think there are earth-shattering moments that really shift your paradigm, and I think they really shift reality. like permanently shift your view of something or your way of thinking about yourself or other people. And I think that kind of change can happen in a flash.

It's like something, like a joint goes back into place. There's a click and it's like, ah, that's not what it is. It's this. And that, like everything else starts to reorganize around that new realization. So I think that can happen.

It's like something, like a joint goes back into place. There's a click and it's like, ah, that's not what it is. It's this. And that, like everything else starts to reorganize around that new realization. So I think that can happen.

What I have found though in psychotherapy, the biggest change that people seem to have gotten from therapy is that they have a realization of their own inner experience. They now know how things affect them, what they really feel, what they really think. And they use that now to guide themselves through relationships and through their lives And usually the results are very adaptive, very good.

What I have found though in psychotherapy, the biggest change that people seem to have gotten from therapy is that they have a realization of their own inner experience. They now know how things affect them, what they really feel, what they really think. And they use that now to guide themselves through relationships and through their lives And usually the results are very adaptive, very good.

They have more energy. The insight is not an intellectual exercise. It is like a becoming, an awareness that, oh, this is who I am.

They have more energy. The insight is not an intellectual exercise. It is like a becoming, an awareness that, oh, this is who I am.

well, there's no eye in the sky that's going to one day give us the answer. But I think we can sense the truth for ourselves, even if it's a bad thing, even if it's a sorrowful thought or a painful thought, you still have those experiences of I've touched on the truth of something. And we respond to that. So I think, you know, as far as human beings go, the best we can get

well, there's no eye in the sky that's going to one day give us the answer. But I think we can sense the truth for ourselves, even if it's a bad thing, even if it's a sorrowful thought or a painful thought, you still have those experiences of I've touched on the truth of something. And we respond to that. So I think, you know, as far as human beings go, the best we can get

is that internal sensing of what our truth is. Now, and of course, the next question is going to be, what if I am a conspiracy theorist or a paranoid personality?

is that internal sensing of what our truth is. Now, and of course, the next question is going to be, what if I am a conspiracy theorist or a paranoid personality?

Exactly. Yes. Well, then you got a problem. And what will happen is that reality will spank you. I mean, there is something that starts to happen eventually. in the particulars of our lives that tells us that we're on the right track.

Exactly. Yes. Well, then you got a problem. And what will happen is that reality will spank you. I mean, there is something that starts to happen eventually. in the particulars of our lives that tells us that we're on the right track.

If you feel like that great line out of Michael Clayton, when Michael Clayton is saying to his son, you're not going to be one of these people like your uncle who goes through life saying, why is this stuff falling on my head all the time? Okay. It's because you become aware of yourself as an agent in your own life.

If you feel like that great line out of Michael Clayton, when Michael Clayton is saying to his son, you're not going to be one of these people like your uncle who goes through life saying, why is this stuff falling on my head all the time? Okay. It's because you become aware of yourself as an agent in your own life.

And once you do that, you are in a much better position to deal with whatever reality is going to bring your way.