Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett

She started doing Pilates, like not Pilates on a mat, but like Pilates with a reformer that would make anybody cry, you know?

She started doing Pilates, like not Pilates on a mat, but like Pilates with a reformer that would make anybody cry, you know?

Because exercise... And basically exercise throws your... It's like you're throwing yourself out of metabolic balance so that the brain can learn to get itself back in. You're basically improving the resilience of your physical systems is basically the way to...

Because exercise... And basically exercise throws your... It's like you're throwing yourself out of metabolic balance so that the brain can learn to get itself back in. You're basically improving the resilience of your physical systems is basically the way to...

She's not... You know, she needed something more like interval training, which is what these Pilates classes were, as opposed to, you know, practicing to play tennis or whatever. Something that would... where after a certain period of time, she'd be dysregulated metabolically, and then she'd drink water and eat something healthful.

She's not... You know, she needed something more like interval training, which is what these Pilates classes were, as opposed to, you know, practicing to play tennis or whatever. Something that would... where after a certain period of time, she'd be dysregulated metabolically, and then she'd drink water and eat something healthful.

And then her system basically was learning to become more flexible again, not so stuck. So again, it was like dosing with prediction error or like providing the brain with opportunity to learn that it was wrong. Yeah. And then omega-3s. So we took, I can't remember the exact dose, but I dosed it out. High omega-3s, low omega-6s.

And then her system basically was learning to become more flexible again, not so stuck. So again, it was like dosing with prediction error or like providing the brain with opportunity to learn that it was wrong. Yeah. And then omega-3s. So we took, I can't remember the exact dose, but I dosed it out. High omega-3s, low omega-6s.

With her doctor's permission, we also used a baby aspirin once a day on a full stomach to reduce systemic inflammation. Before bed, I mean, before bed, we had always done like a cuddle, you know, like when she was little, we would read a story or whatever and In her early adolescent years, she rejected that and then we brought it back.

With her doctor's permission, we also used a baby aspirin once a day on a full stomach to reduce systemic inflammation. Before bed, I mean, before bed, we had always done like a cuddle, you know, like when she was little, we would read a story or whatever and In her early adolescent years, she rejected that and then we brought it back.

So an hour before bed, we would, either me or her dad, sometimes all three of us, we would read a book together or he would read a book to us or we would sit and talk and she would tell me, You know, all the things that were happening at school that she could remember. And sometimes they were really horrible. And I just had to empathize. That was really hard for me because I just wanted to fix it.

So an hour before bed, we would, either me or her dad, sometimes all three of us, we would read a book together or he would read a book to us or we would sit and talk and she would tell me, You know, all the things that were happening at school that she could remember. And sometimes they were really horrible. And I just had to empathize. That was really hard for me because I just wanted to fix it.

I just wanted to fix it. And I had to really draw on my own experience as a therapist to just sit with the distress and empathize rather than say, do this, do this, do this, do this. It took me a long time to learn that. And I'm still sometimes struggling with that.

I just wanted to fix it. And I had to really draw on my own experience as a therapist to just sit with the distress and empathize rather than say, do this, do this, do this, do this. It took me a long time to learn that. And I'm still sometimes struggling with that.

Because then she feels heard. And she feels understood. And it took me a long time to learn this. When she would tell me that someone had done something terribly mean, if I did anything other than empathize, she would feel like I hadn't heard her. And social support is a major... I mean, we are the caretakers of each other's nervous systems. Humans are social animals. It's hard to believe...

Because then she feels heard. And she feels understood. And it took me a long time to learn this. When she would tell me that someone had done something terribly mean, if I did anything other than empathize, she would feel like I hadn't heard her. And social support is a major... I mean, we are the caretakers of each other's nervous systems. Humans are social animals. It's hard to believe...

I think in a culture like ours where we're so individualistic, right? And it seems like a political statement or something. It doesn't really matter what your political views are. We evolve the way we evolve, man. We are social animals. We affect each other metabolically. We can add savings and we can add taxes. And the best thing for a human nervous system is another human.

I think in a culture like ours where we're so individualistic, right? And it seems like a political statement or something. It doesn't really matter what your political views are. We evolve the way we evolve, man. We are social animals. We affect each other metabolically. We can add savings and we can add taxes. And the best thing for a human nervous system is another human.

The worst thing for a human nervous system is another human.

The worst thing for a human nervous system is another human.