Dr. Manuel Sierra

And so and the reason I bring that up, because there's so many kids that, you know, they're like, I got called that. And I think sometimes we don't address some of the horrible, rude things that people say. And, of course, they get better and better at it of saying meaner things. It used to just be your mama jokes, right? Your mama wears combat boots.

And so and the reason I bring that up, because there's so many kids that, you know, they're like, I got called that. And I think sometimes we don't address some of the horrible, rude things that people say. And, of course, they get better and better at it of saying meaner things. It used to just be your mama jokes, right? Your mama wears combat boots.

And obviously that's evolved to meaner and horrible things that people are going to do.

And obviously that's evolved to meaner and horrible things that people are going to do.

you know or talk about with your mother and so us trying to process that not internalize it helps to get to the point where we're viewing it more objectively like wow there's a person saying some really rude things and gosh what kind of imagination they have that they're thinking of all this horrible stuff uh man i it's a good thing that i'm not going to i know that that you're not doing that to my mom that i'm not this horrible person but boy i could just imagine if i was

you know or talk about with your mother and so us trying to process that not internalize it helps to get to the point where we're viewing it more objectively like wow there's a person saying some really rude things and gosh what kind of imagination they have that they're thinking of all this horrible stuff uh man i it's a good thing that i'm not going to i know that that you're not doing that to my mom that i'm not this horrible person but boy i could just imagine if i was

Believing all of that, I'd be really angry. I'd be really sad. I'd be really overwhelmed. So that's, again, how we work on how we kind of move outside of that as opposed to, oh, I'm this horrible person now. Or how do you talk about my mom like that? I'm an idiot.

Believing all of that, I'd be really angry. I'd be really sad. I'd be really overwhelmed. So that's, again, how we work on how we kind of move outside of that as opposed to, oh, I'm this horrible person now. Or how do you talk about my mom like that? I'm an idiot.

you know it's just like wow this person's got an imagination or else boy they just keep saying the same thing over and over again like it's pretty boring to just hear how many terrible things they're going to do to my mom or about what a loser i am you know they don't have much of imagination or they have a great imagination so those are you know and that's i think some of the talking back to ourselves things um and which again we're gonna get to so i don't know how much time do we have

you know it's just like wow this person's got an imagination or else boy they just keep saying the same thing over and over again like it's pretty boring to just hear how many terrible things they're going to do to my mom or about what a loser i am you know they don't have much of imagination or they have a great imagination so those are you know and that's i think some of the talking back to ourselves things um and which again we're gonna get to so i don't know how much time do we have

What if everybody were to think that I'm this? Or what if everybody's laughing because they called me a spic and a beaner? You know, those different things are like, oh, you know, that feels so personal and so hateful and so shameful. Even if it's not something to be ashamed of, it's still... You have to wonder. So, yeah, there's a lot of those negative thoughts.

What if everybody were to think that I'm this? Or what if everybody's laughing because they called me a spic and a beaner? You know, those different things are like, oh, you know, that feels so personal and so hateful and so shameful. Even if it's not something to be ashamed of, it's still... You have to wonder. So, yeah, there's a lot of those negative thoughts.

But real quick, as you're going to do this, which I love, is I like to just still explain to the kids what I mean by those automatic thoughts and challenging them. So I use that example. I think I used it last time too. But I just think it's an easy one for people to understand that most people experience.

But real quick, as you're going to do this, which I love, is I like to just still explain to the kids what I mean by those automatic thoughts and challenging them. So I use that example. I think I used it last time too. But I just think it's an easy one for people to understand that most people experience.

Like if you're walking down the hallway, you see your friend, you wave at them, they're looking right at you. And they turn away and don't wave back. So our automatic thoughts then be, you know, what happened? What did I do? Oh, my gosh. You know, who did they talk to? Did I talk about them? Or it could be, you know, some people like, oh, they slighted me. Well, screw them, then.

Like if you're walking down the hallway, you see your friend, you wave at them, they're looking right at you. And they turn away and don't wave back. So our automatic thoughts then be, you know, what happened? What did I do? Oh, my gosh. You know, who did they talk to? Did I talk about them? Or it could be, you know, some people like, oh, they slighted me. Well, screw them, then.

I'll never talk to them again. And the next time they say hi to me, I'll just be like, go to hell, you know. Or it could be like, oh, man. Not even that person likes me. I'm not that person's my friend. I don't – everybody hates me. I'm just a loser. Nobody likes me. So that's – but it's just real simple as opposed to also where somebody then – challenge that automatic thought, right?

I'll never talk to them again. And the next time they say hi to me, I'll just be like, go to hell, you know. Or it could be like, oh, man. Not even that person likes me. I'm not that person's my friend. I don't – everybody hates me. I'm just a loser. Nobody likes me. So that's – but it's just real simple as opposed to also where somebody then – challenge that automatic thought, right?

You go up to them like, hey, hello, Earth to Matt. What? Oh, I'm in my own little world, man. I'm doing – I just see in shapes. I'm walking down the hall thinking about trying not to look stupid walking into class or if I got my homework.

You go up to them like, hey, hello, Earth to Matt. What? Oh, I'm in my own little world, man. I'm doing – I just see in shapes. I'm walking down the hall thinking about trying not to look stupid walking into class or if I got my homework.