Dr. Manuel Sierra

And so in one case, we checked the automatic thought, and we've only got very small intensity for very small duration because we checked that as opposed to we could have gone into class the whole time going – I didn't pay attention because I'm just thinking, what did I do to make this person angry? They don't like me anymore. They won't even wave at me.

And so in one case, we checked the automatic thought, and we've only got very small intensity for very small duration because we checked that as opposed to we could have gone into class the whole time going – I didn't pay attention because I'm just thinking, what did I do to make this person angry? They don't like me anymore. They won't even wave at me.

And I just keep feeding into that and feeding into that to the point, like I said, where it could have negative longer-term impacts, especially if I'm like, well, the next time I see them, I'll just be like, ugh. So anyway, that's when you talk about recognizing those automatic thoughts and challenging them. That's just a very simple one.

And I just keep feeding into that and feeding into that to the point, like I said, where it could have negative longer-term impacts, especially if I'm like, well, the next time I see them, I'll just be like, ugh. So anyway, that's when you talk about recognizing those automatic thoughts and challenging them. That's just a very simple one.

I tell people, as we know, that people put each other into boxes, right? All the time. We tend to do it. We don't try to. But if this person loved me, they wouldn't do this. You know, they did that. Oh, so obviously they don't love me. So we create that world for ourselves. It's very black and white. Right. And then it's like, holy smokes.

I tell people, as we know, that people put each other into boxes, right? All the time. We tend to do it. We don't try to. But if this person loved me, they wouldn't do this. You know, they did that. Oh, so obviously they don't love me. So we create that world for ourselves. It's very black and white. Right. And then it's like, holy smokes.

Anyway, those are the things that you guys are the experts on. That's why I love hearing you guys do the, you know, feared fantasy and talking back to your voice, because that's an important part.

Anyway, those are the things that you guys are the experts on. That's why I love hearing you guys do the, you know, feared fantasy and talking back to your voice, because that's an important part.

of what, you know, I work with the kids on as well as, you know, trying to give them some examples of how do we process this, uh, and get better and better at practicing and practicing as opposed to just, you know, coming up with that line, but like, okay, well, you're, you're smarter than me. You're faster than me. You could hurt me.

of what, you know, I work with the kids on as well as, you know, trying to give them some examples of how do we process this, uh, and get better and better at practicing and practicing as opposed to just, you know, coming up with that line, but like, okay, well, you're, you're smarter than me. You're faster than me. You could hurt me.

I'm not sure what you want me to do, which can be effective way to address a bully, but I like that.

I'm not sure what you want me to do, which can be effective way to address a bully, but I like that.

And I also say sometimes they're going to be quick-witted, right? You could be like trying to get into an argument with them. It can just still make you look dumb. You're sitting there at 3 at night. Oh, I should have said this.

And I also say sometimes they're going to be quick-witted, right? You could be like trying to get into an argument with them. It can just still make you look dumb. You're sitting there at 3 at night. Oh, I should have said this.

But the process again is that – and one of the – I just thought of this this morning is like kind of that David Letterman technique you used to – which is like – And you don't have to do it to the bully. This can be going on in your mind. That's what I tell them.

But the process again is that – and one of the – I just thought of this this morning is like kind of that David Letterman technique you used to – which is like – And you don't have to do it to the bully. This can be going on in your mind. That's what I tell them.

You don't necessarily need to get in that conversation, but you could be like, I wonder, wow, this is pretty interesting that this person would come up, choose me, pick on me for something I'm insecure about. I wonder what it is in their life that makes them dislike me. I wonder what it is that makes them so angry to see me or to want to just degrade me.

You don't necessarily need to get in that conversation, but you could be like, I wonder, wow, this is pretty interesting that this person would come up, choose me, pick on me for something I'm insecure about. I wonder what it is in their life that makes them dislike me. I wonder what it is that makes them so angry to see me or to want to just degrade me.

So it's still kind of a way of pulling out where it's, I'm not just internalizing it. I'm a terrible person who has a big zit on their nose, who has funny clothes or smells funny or all the things that we might be like, oh, my gosh, what's going on? Do I have a booger? Why is everybody looking at me now and laughing?

So it's still kind of a way of pulling out where it's, I'm not just internalizing it. I'm a terrible person who has a big zit on their nose, who has funny clothes or smells funny or all the things that we might be like, oh, my gosh, what's going on? Do I have a booger? Why is everybody looking at me now and laughing?