Dr. Manuel Sierra

So taking an approach where we're like, oh, how can I think about this in a different way? So I'm taking it outside of just not I'm a terrible person.

So taking an approach where we're like, oh, how can I think about this in a different way? So I'm taking it outside of just not I'm a terrible person.

and I want to brush up on this a little bit, but, you know, somebody calls me a fake, a meaner, a fag, a horrible name, or a smelly, whatever, right?

and I want to brush up on this a little bit, but, you know, somebody calls me a fake, a meaner, a fag, a horrible name, or a smelly, whatever, right?

And if I'm sitting there thinking about, okay, so this is the way this person is characterizing me, is saying these things, and they're trying to make me feel bad, they're trying to hurt me, they're trying to embarrass me, and I can also get to the point where we're like, well, why do I have to take that, right? I...

And if I'm sitting there thinking about, okay, so this is the way this person is characterizing me, is saying these things, and they're trying to make me feel bad, they're trying to hurt me, they're trying to embarrass me, and I can also get to the point where we're like, well, why do I have to take that, right? I...

I'm not going to have a bad day or feel horrible because this person is purposely going out of their way to be a jerk, to be mean, to make me feel that way. So if I kind of get outside of my head on that and get better and better at that, it's like, wait, okay, wait. Wow, this guy's got some really colorful, horrible language.

I'm not going to have a bad day or feel horrible because this person is purposely going out of their way to be a jerk, to be mean, to make me feel that way. So if I kind of get outside of my head on that and get better and better at that, it's like, wait, okay, wait. Wow, this guy's got some really colorful, horrible language.

They're saying some mean things about me or they started this rumor that, you know. I got pregnant by a donkey. I had all the horrible things that someone says, like, and I'm going to, like, that hurts. That's embarrassing. That's, whoa, I hope people don't believe that. But why am I going to right now just be like, wow, I'm going to buy into this.

They're saying some mean things about me or they started this rumor that, you know. I got pregnant by a donkey. I had all the horrible things that someone says, like, and I'm going to, like, that hurts. That's embarrassing. That's, whoa, I hope people don't believe that. But why am I going to right now just be like, wow, I'm going to buy into this.

and just have a horrible, horrific day and think worse of myself when this person's purposely trying to do that. Like, I don't want to give them that kind of pleasure, power over me. It's like, how do I kind of just be, wow, this person, I need to look at this as like a science specimen that's just saying these things.

and just have a horrible, horrific day and think worse of myself when this person's purposely trying to do that. Like, I don't want to give them that kind of pleasure, power over me. It's like, how do I kind of just be, wow, this person, I need to look at this as like a science specimen that's just saying these things.

And I just interpret all I'm hearing as I feel horrible about myself or I'm just trying to be mean and make you mad. And as opposed to getting caught up in all of the words they're saying, all of the meanings, right? It's like, wait, how do I kind of remove myself and challenge those things as opposed to right now? How do I react? Because that's the problem, right?

And I just interpret all I'm hearing as I feel horrible about myself or I'm just trying to be mean and make you mad. And as opposed to getting caught up in all of the words they're saying, all of the meanings, right? It's like, wait, how do I kind of remove myself and challenge those things as opposed to right now? How do I react? Because that's the problem, right?

Is that somebody comes up to me and says something really mean or horrible. It's like, well, especially when you're self-conscious, is that I feel like I have to react immediately. And we're trying to work on how to not react, right, and then how to maybe say something or not say something and be like, okay, wow, that's amazing. That was really good.

Is that somebody comes up to me and says something really mean or horrible. It's like, well, especially when you're self-conscious, is that I feel like I have to react immediately. And we're trying to work on how to not react, right, and then how to maybe say something or not say something and be like, okay, wow, that's amazing. That was really good.

That boy, that one, he put some stank on that one. I don't even know how to think about that. That was so disgusting or mean or hateful. But, you know, I don't have to sit there and be a part of that. If I get caught up in the everybody's laughing at me, Then I'm just embarrassed and feeling like a fool, and everybody must think that. So anyway, yeah, I love watching you guys doing your...

That boy, that one, he put some stank on that one. I don't even know how to think about that. That was so disgusting or mean or hateful. But, you know, I don't have to sit there and be a part of that. If I get caught up in the everybody's laughing at me, Then I'm just embarrassed and feeling like a fool, and everybody must think that. So anyway, yeah, I love watching you guys doing your...

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. And that can be – we're trying to teach them to have that internal dialogue because while they're doing that and thinking about it, whether they're responding or not, that's less time that they're sitting there taking in that I must be terrible, horrible, defective person.

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. And that can be – we're trying to teach them to have that internal dialogue because while they're doing that and thinking about it, whether they're responding or not, that's less time that they're sitting there taking in that I must be terrible, horrible, defective person.