Dr. Marc Brackett

And I'm like, tell me more, of course. I'm a psychologist. And in the end, the guy was afraid that his son would think he was weak. And so we have a mindset about feelings that we have to talk about. People have feelings about their feelings. Sometimes we call those meta-emotions or meta-feelings. Sometimes it's just that happy is good, anger is bad. It's that simple.

And I'm like, tell me more, of course. I'm a psychologist. And in the end, the guy was afraid that his son would think he was weak. And so we have a mindset about feelings that we have to talk about. People have feelings about their feelings. Sometimes we call those meta-emotions or meta-feelings. Sometimes it's just that happy is good, anger is bad. It's that simple.

My whole recent research is focused on something I call permission to feel. You know a little bit about my own story. I had a pretty rough childhood that included abuse. It included a lot of bullying. And I had two parents who loved me. But, you know, my mother was a very anxious woman who never had strategies. So, you know, she was always saying, I'm having a nervous breakdown.

My whole recent research is focused on something I call permission to feel. You know a little bit about my own story. I had a pretty rough childhood that included abuse. It included a lot of bullying. And I had two parents who loved me. But, you know, my mother was a very anxious woman who never had strategies. So, you know, she was always saying, I'm having a nervous breakdown.

My whole recent research is focused on something I call permission to feel. You know a little bit about my own story. I had a pretty rough childhood that included abuse. It included a lot of bullying. And I had two parents who loved me. But, you know, my mother was a very anxious woman who never had strategies. So, you know, she was always saying, I'm having a nervous breakdown.

And she'd lock herself in her room and she wouldn't come out for a few hours. My father was, as we might call today, you know, the tough guy who was kind of toxically masculine. Son, you got tough enough. He even said to me once, you know, He's gone now and we had a good relationship. But I'll never forget, he said, son, I used to beat kids up like you. He said that? He did.

And she'd lock herself in her room and she wouldn't come out for a few hours. My father was, as we might call today, you know, the tough guy who was kind of toxically masculine. Son, you got tough enough. He even said to me once, you know, He's gone now and we had a good relationship. But I'll never forget, he said, son, I used to beat kids up like you. He said that? He did.

And she'd lock herself in her room and she wouldn't come out for a few hours. My father was, as we might call today, you know, the tough guy who was kind of toxically masculine. Son, you got tough enough. He even said to me once, you know, He's gone now and we had a good relationship. But I'll never forget, he said, son, I used to beat kids up like you. He said that? He did.

And he thought that was a message that I needed to hear to toughen up. He was doing that through love. I mean, it was not emotionally intelligent parenting. But that was the way he thought. And he did love me. He just didn't have a Be a parent in that way. And so think about that. Bullied, shame, fear, abuse, all kinds of stuff going on in my head. Mom having nervous breakdowns, father toughen up.

And he thought that was a message that I needed to hear to toughen up. He was doing that through love. I mean, it was not emotionally intelligent parenting. But that was the way he thought. And he did love me. He just didn't have a Be a parent in that way. And so think about that. Bullied, shame, fear, abuse, all kinds of stuff going on in my head. Mom having nervous breakdowns, father toughen up.

And he thought that was a message that I needed to hear to toughen up. He was doing that through love. I mean, it was not emotionally intelligent parenting. But that was the way he thought. And he did love me. He just didn't have a Be a parent in that way. And so think about that. Bullied, shame, fear, abuse, all kinds of stuff going on in my head. Mom having nervous breakdowns, father toughen up.

What happens? You suppress. You deny. You ignore. You eat. You do all kinds of weird behaviors because you have nowhere to go with your feelings. And I fear that way too many people feel that way right now. And I have good research to show that. Um, you know, you've read my book, you know, I had an uncle Marvin.

What happens? You suppress. You deny. You ignore. You eat. You do all kinds of weird behaviors because you have nowhere to go with your feelings. And I fear that way too many people feel that way right now. And I have good research to show that. Um, you know, you've read my book, you know, I had an uncle Marvin.

What happens? You suppress. You deny. You ignore. You eat. You do all kinds of weird behaviors because you have nowhere to go with your feelings. And I fear that way too many people feel that way right now. And I have good research to show that. Um, you know, you've read my book, you know, I had an uncle Marvin.

He was a middle school teacher who, you know, by some wave of a magic wand was staying with my family one summer when I was 12. And he noticed something in my facial expression, my body language, he knew something was off. And he was the first adult who sat with me and said, Hey, Mark, how are you feeling?

He was a middle school teacher who, you know, by some wave of a magic wand was staying with my family one summer when I was 12. And he noticed something in my facial expression, my body language, he knew something was off. And he was the first adult who sat with me and said, Hey, Mark, how are you feeling?

He was a middle school teacher who, you know, by some wave of a magic wand was staying with my family one summer when I was 12. And he noticed something in my facial expression, my body language, he knew something was off. And he was the first adult who sat with me and said, Hey, Mark, how are you feeling?

And I don't know if it was his facial expression, his body language, his vocal tone, but that was the opener for me. I'm not doing so well. I don't really like life very much. I'm scared. And he didn't say, I'm going to have a nervous breakdown or toughen up. He said, we're going to get through this. I got you. I'm with you. And it's really interesting to me because, you know,

And I don't know if it was his facial expression, his body language, his vocal tone, but that was the opener for me. I'm not doing so well. I don't really like life very much. I'm scared. And he didn't say, I'm going to have a nervous breakdown or toughen up. He said, we're going to get through this. I got you. I'm with you. And it's really interesting to me because, you know,

And I don't know if it was his facial expression, his body language, his vocal tone, but that was the opener for me. I'm not doing so well. I don't really like life very much. I'm scared. And he didn't say, I'm going to have a nervous breakdown or toughen up. He said, we're going to get through this. I got you. I'm with you. And it's really interesting to me because, you know,