Dr. Marc Brackett

I feel like we're so focused on skill building, which is really important, but I want to take a step back and say, are we giving ourselves, are we giving our colleagues, our partners, our children the permission to feel? And I feel like a lot of people don't have that permission.

I feel like we're so focused on skill building, which is really important, but I want to take a step back and say, are we giving ourselves, are we giving our colleagues, our partners, our children the permission to feel? And I feel like a lot of people don't have that permission.

I feel like we're so focused on skill building, which is really important, but I want to take a step back and say, are we giving ourselves, are we giving our colleagues, our partners, our children the permission to feel? And I feel like a lot of people don't have that permission.

Now, my research shows with tens of thousands of people across cultures that only about a third of adults felt that they had someone when they were young, who created the conditions for them to have permission to appeal. I mean, 70% of the people walking around here right now, in our corporations, in our schools, in our homes, 30% felt like they had that.

Now, my research shows with tens of thousands of people across cultures that only about a third of adults felt that they had someone when they were young, who created the conditions for them to have permission to appeal. I mean, 70% of the people walking around here right now, in our corporations, in our schools, in our homes, 30% felt like they had that.

Now, my research shows with tens of thousands of people across cultures that only about a third of adults felt that they had someone when they were young, who created the conditions for them to have permission to appeal. I mean, 70% of the people walking around here right now, in our corporations, in our schools, in our homes, 30% felt like they had that.

And then you wonder, what do you think the characteristics are of these people? The characteristics of the Uncle Marvin's or Aunt Maria's or the colleague at work, by the way. This also works in the adult workforce. You can have an emotion mentor or a feelings coach at work. There's three characteristics. Do you want to take a guess?

And then you wonder, what do you think the characteristics are of these people? The characteristics of the Uncle Marvin's or Aunt Maria's or the colleague at work, by the way. This also works in the adult workforce. You can have an emotion mentor or a feelings coach at work. There's three characteristics. Do you want to take a guess?

And then you wonder, what do you think the characteristics are of these people? The characteristics of the Uncle Marvin's or Aunt Maria's or the colleague at work, by the way. This also works in the adult workforce. You can have an emotion mentor or a feelings coach at work. There's three characteristics. Do you want to take a guess?

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Yeah. You're getting – like you're really nuanced, which is – that's why you're a scientist too. The three broad characteristics, the first one that shows up cross-culturally, nonjudgmental. Like when we think about the people who gave us permission to feel, they just had no judgment. They let me be who I can be or who I am.

Yeah. You're getting – like you're really nuanced, which is – that's why you're a scientist too. The three broad characteristics, the first one that shows up cross-culturally, nonjudgmental. Like when we think about the people who gave us permission to feel, they just had no judgment. They let me be who I can be or who I am.

Yeah. You're getting – like you're really nuanced, which is – that's why you're a scientist too. The three broad characteristics, the first one that shows up cross-culturally, nonjudgmental. Like when we think about the people who gave us permission to feel, they just had no judgment. They let me be who I can be or who I am.

The second is empathic and kind of coupled with compassionate, which is kind of the different form of empathy. The third primarily is active listening. People want to be around people who don't judge them, who listen actively and show that they care. It's that simple.

The second is empathic and kind of coupled with compassionate, which is kind of the different form of empathy. The third primarily is active listening. People want to be around people who don't judge them, who listen actively and show that they care. It's that simple.