Dr. Marc Brackett

And I just think it's interesting to think about it in terms of helping people to learn what to do with their emotions. Right now, there's a mindfulness craze. Everyone's doing mindfulness, and I do mindfulness, and I appreciate mindfulness. But let me tell you, when you're feeling chronic envy, Doing breathing exercises is not going to decrease the envy.

And I just think it's interesting to think about it in terms of helping people to learn what to do with their emotions. Right now, there's a mindfulness craze. Everyone's doing mindfulness, and I do mindfulness, and I appreciate mindfulness. But let me tell you, when you're feeling chronic envy, Doing breathing exercises is not going to decrease the envy.

And I just think it's interesting to think about it in terms of helping people to learn what to do with their emotions. Right now, there's a mindfulness craze. Everyone's doing mindfulness, and I do mindfulness, and I appreciate mindfulness. But let me tell you, when you're feeling chronic envy, Doing breathing exercises is not going to decrease the envy.

You're going to have to work on your construction in your mind of your relationships with people. And so I just feel so strongly that we help people pause a little bit, reflect a little bit, think about how they're feeling as a pathway to just having well-being.

You're going to have to work on your construction in your mind of your relationships with people. And so I just feel so strongly that we help people pause a little bit, reflect a little bit, think about how they're feeling as a pathway to just having well-being.

You're going to have to work on your construction in your mind of your relationships with people. And so I just feel so strongly that we help people pause a little bit, reflect a little bit, think about how they're feeling as a pathway to just having well-being.

Well, I think, again, like all emotions, envy is not a bad emotion. You know, the way I think about emotions as being, you know, when we need to get help with our emotions is when, if it's an unpleasant one, it's intense in long duration. Right? Momentary envy. You know, I get envious all the time. I get envious. I watch TED Talks. I'm like, oh, that timing was amazing.

Well, I think, again, like all emotions, envy is not a bad emotion. You know, the way I think about emotions as being, you know, when we need to get help with our emotions is when, if it's an unpleasant one, it's intense in long duration. Right? Momentary envy. You know, I get envious all the time. I get envious. I watch TED Talks. I'm like, oh, that timing was amazing.

Well, I think, again, like all emotions, envy is not a bad emotion. You know, the way I think about emotions as being, you know, when we need to get help with our emotions is when, if it's an unpleasant one, it's intense in long duration. Right? Momentary envy. You know, I get envious all the time. I get envious. I watch TED Talks. I'm like, oh, that timing was amazing.

You know, and I'm like, I'm going to try that out. You know, so I use that envy of someone else's skill, you know, as a way to grow.

You know, and I'm like, I'm going to try that out. You know, so I use that envy of someone else's skill, you know, as a way to grow.

You know, and I'm like, I'm going to try that out. You know, so I use that envy of someone else's skill, you know, as a way to grow.

So that's the difference between, you know, the envy that leans toward admiration versus the envy, like what you're referring to, that leads to resentment. Right.

So that's the difference between, you know, the envy that leans toward admiration versus the envy, like what you're referring to, that leads to resentment. Right.

So that's the difference between, you know, the envy that leans toward admiration versus the envy, like what you're referring to, that leads to resentment. Right.

right it's if i if i hate you because you have you know what i want now we're talking you know pathological envy potentially and so that's the self-awareness piece you know if that's the part of really getting you know that differentiation of emotion that granularity um Because again, it's like anger. It's not a bad emotion. Anger is okay. There's reasons to be angry in the world.

right it's if i if i hate you because you have you know what i want now we're talking you know pathological envy potentially and so that's the self-awareness piece you know if that's the part of really getting you know that differentiation of emotion that granularity um Because again, it's like anger. It's not a bad emotion. Anger is okay. There's reasons to be angry in the world.

right it's if i if i hate you because you have you know what i want now we're talking you know pathological envy potentially and so that's the self-awareness piece you know if that's the part of really getting you know that differentiation of emotion that granularity um Because again, it's like anger. It's not a bad emotion. Anger is okay. There's reasons to be angry in the world.

When we get treated unfairly, we should be angry. It doesn't mean that we have to be dysregulated. There's an assumption that we make that when we experience unpleasant, strong emotions like anxiety or anger, that we're going to be dysregulated. I have a whole new relationship with my anxiety. very different relationship. I may have spent years working on it.

When we get treated unfairly, we should be angry. It doesn't mean that we have to be dysregulated. There's an assumption that we make that when we experience unpleasant, strong emotions like anxiety or anger, that we're going to be dysregulated. I have a whole new relationship with my anxiety. very different relationship. I may have spent years working on it.