Dr. Marielle Bouquet

It doesn't work that way.

You just have to let them be who they are.

And allow yourself...

to let that reaction that you have be a reflection of your healed self or your more healed self.

And then what surfaces, which is so beautiful, is pride.

You have pride that overrides the shame that once existed because you're able to see yourself like, wow, I didn't respond to that in the ways that I used to.

Well, I work with my patients, right?

I'm not working with their parents.

And I'll tell you what I mean by that.

So I work with my patients to ensure that they're going into that family gathering with the same people that are having the same conversations and that are engaging in the same unhealthy family dynamics.

Everything is the same except you.

my client.

You now have an opportunity to not feed the cycle.

And so you're disrupting the equilibrium of that dysfunction.

So more often than not, I'm working with the person in front of me to be able to exist in a healthy way within the environments that they're a part of, because that's most of what we have.

Now, if there are other individuals in their family that are willing to come on board and work through those wounds, they're welcome.

But only after we've worked on buying back that second.

The first thing that you would have to do is actually practice them when they're not around.

The tools are made to be practiced to build mastery around for you to feel comfortable around the tools and then to bring them around your family.

So that's first and foremost.