Dr. Marielle Bouquet

However, you can take a deep breath at the dinner table.

When people are saying things that are potentially triggering to you, you can very subtly just take a breath and allow your nervous system to just restore itself rather than get into a trigger response.

So these tools you can bring anywhere.

However, it's critically important that you first do them in your own time, at your own pace.

within your solitude and in the moments when you can really be gentle and honest with yourself about what you're feeling and then bring them around the people that tend to trigger you most.

Exactly.

Yes.

And look around the table.

Visualize everyone else's nervous systems.

Right.

People are operating at their level of healing and you will see different levels at one table.

All of this is information.

It's data that you now have that can actually help you to buy back that second.

So it's building blocks.

Right.

We're building up to that.

That's not the first step.

That's what people want to do in the first session.

Let's bring my mother so that we can talk about all the ways that she hurt me.

Right.