Dr. Marielle Bouquet

Yeah.

And, you know, there's so many layers to this.

There's so many things that we need to consider.

And there's so many ways that we need to restructure your nervous system to really take in the experience of speaking to your mother.

And we need to consider her nervous system too, because that matters too.

It's so critical.

It's so essential.

You know, my sister says something to me very often these days.

She'll look at my mother.

We're both in our 40s.

And she'll look at my mother and she'll say, you know, I understand mom now.

I get it.

There were so many ways in which we would appraise what my mother would say or do as toxic and just, you know, cut her off or, you know, not want to really kind of engage her in conversation.

And now we see in like almost like 4K, right?

Like 4K.

what her experiences have been, what it feels like inside to be a person living that reality.

And now we have greater compassion for the person that she was and the person that she is now.

And that's the type of humanity that I want to embed into this work.

It's for us to have mutual understanding of each other,

And when I look at people like my parents, for example, I look at them with tender eyes, with an understanding that they failed in many ways and they did the best they can, the best they could, the best they can because they're still alive.