Dr. Marisa Franco

There's research on a phenomenon called the liking gap, where when strangers interact and they predict how much the other person likes them, they tend to underestimate how much the other person likes them. which is why one of my biggest tips for making friends as an adult is to assume people like you. So you'll actually initiate with people.

There's research on a phenomenon called the liking gap, where when strangers interact and they predict how much the other person likes them, they tend to underestimate how much the other person likes them. which is why one of my biggest tips for making friends as an adult is to assume people like you. So you'll actually initiate with people.

And now the research also finds that when researchers sort of manipulated people to think that they would be liked, even though that wasn't true, people actually became more likable because they were more open, more agreeable, more friendly. It's called the acceptance prophecy. Whereas people that think they'll be rejected suffer from something called rejection sensitivity.

And now the research also finds that when researchers sort of manipulated people to think that they would be liked, even though that wasn't true, people actually became more likable because they were more open, more agreeable, more friendly. It's called the acceptance prophecy. Whereas people that think they'll be rejected suffer from something called rejection sensitivity.

And now the research also finds that when researchers sort of manipulated people to think that they would be liked, even though that wasn't true, people actually became more likable because they were more open, more agreeable, more friendly. It's called the acceptance prophecy. Whereas people that think they'll be rejected suffer from something called rejection sensitivity.

And what happens is when these people are exposed to ambiguous circumstances, like someone's quieter, they tend to escalate by shutting down, being withdrawn, and they sort of will and manifest the same rejection that they fear.

And what happens is when these people are exposed to ambiguous circumstances, like someone's quieter, they tend to escalate by shutting down, being withdrawn, and they sort of will and manifest the same rejection that they fear.

And what happens is when these people are exposed to ambiguous circumstances, like someone's quieter, they tend to escalate by shutting down, being withdrawn, and they sort of will and manifest the same rejection that they fear.

Yeah. And you know what? I will say, surprisingly from my read of the research, who's most likely to reject you is the person that fears rejection the most because they're engaging in self-protective behaviors to protect themselves against rejection, which tend to manifest as rejection of other people.

Yeah. And you know what? I will say, surprisingly from my read of the research, who's most likely to reject you is the person that fears rejection the most because they're engaging in self-protective behaviors to protect themselves against rejection, which tend to manifest as rejection of other people.

Yeah. And you know what? I will say, surprisingly from my read of the research, who's most likely to reject you is the person that fears rejection the most because they're engaging in self-protective behaviors to protect themselves against rejection, which tend to manifest as rejection of other people.

Exactly. Yeah, there was a really interesting study of networking events that found that 95% of people wanted to meet new people, and yet most people interacted with people they already know.

Exactly. Yeah, there was a really interesting study of networking events that found that 95% of people wanted to meet new people, and yet most people interacted with people they already know.

Exactly. Yeah, there was a really interesting study of networking events that found that 95% of people wanted to meet new people, and yet most people interacted with people they already know.

But I think it's really helpful to know this information, because now if I go into a social event, I know everybody's just waiting for me to introduce myself, and they're more than likely going to be very open to it if I do.

But I think it's really helpful to know this information, because now if I go into a social event, I know everybody's just waiting for me to introduce myself, and they're more than likely going to be very open to it if I do.

But I think it's really helpful to know this information, because now if I go into a social event, I know everybody's just waiting for me to introduce myself, and they're more than likely going to be very open to it if I do.

Yeah, so one thing that I suggest to people is to build social infrastructure, which to me means recreating environments that give you continuous unplanned interaction and shared vulnerability. So that means joining an improv club, joining a language group.

Yeah, so one thing that I suggest to people is to build social infrastructure, which to me means recreating environments that give you continuous unplanned interaction and shared vulnerability. So that means joining an improv club, joining a language group.

Yeah, so one thing that I suggest to people is to build social infrastructure, which to me means recreating environments that give you continuous unplanned interaction and shared vulnerability. So that means joining an improv club, joining a language group.