Dr. Mary Claire Haver

They're not given the cornucopia of options.

Lots of questions from our audience.

One is, and this is also very curious to me, is the orgasm gap between males and females and between heterosexual couples and same-sex couples for women.

Not that we get better.

They get worse.

Exactly.

Well, and I feel that women are not willing to sacrifice their own pleasure anymore.

You know, they're not just going to do it to do it.

They're like, if I'm in, I'm in, you know, and we're going to we're going to do this until I also have an orgasm rather than then just putting themselves second.

They're really putting themselves first, I think, for their pleasure.

And when the first divorce happened in our friend group, I think that book went around.

The guys freaked in our big, giant friend group.

And I think the guys kind of like, uh.

And I think that book went around.

Because I noticed a definite, you know, more attention to making sure that I was going to be okay.

And there's sometimes I'm just like, it's fine.

You know, I'm sick or I'm just not, you know, whatever.

And I think it was born of that fear of that first divorce that happened and like, what can I do to like hang on to this relationship?

So we were very appreciative of that book and my friend group.

I think when I read the data, it's like 70% to 80% of men will have an orgasm with intercourse.